 Webster defines an intimate
relationship as "a particularly
close interpersonal relationship.
It is a relationship in which the
participants know or trust one
another very well or are confidants
of one another, or a relationship
in which there is physical or
emotional intimacy". So when one
of the partners decides to "flirt
with fate" and do things that may
jeopardize the relationship, they
do not show any respect for the
other person's feelings. I believe
people that flirt with danger
should not be in relationships
because they are not ready to make
a commitment and possibly never
will be ready. |
 04 Mar 2008 01:31
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Innocent flirting usually leads to
more. |
30 Sep 2008 06:02
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II know its hard but please don't
flirt while in a relationship. It
causes problems that you don't want
to start. |
09 Sep 2008 23:01
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Usually when someone married flirts
beyond the innocent point,(such as
a wink or a sexy joke of sorts)
its usually a signal things aren't
happy at the home front |
03 Aug 2008 02:25
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Married an "innocent flirt". Now
she's divorced me and living in
bigamy. |
31 Jul 2008 20:30
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I went through my bfs phone and saw
booby pictures, so I called her and
straightened things out. I found
emails to a different girl and I
read them to my Mom while he was on
the phone with me. If the girl had
been writing nasty things then I
would have said something to her,
but she was brushing him off in
most of the emails. It was all him.
I broke up with him, then we got
back together. I don't know what he
does now, i stopped reading his
emails. If i found any more i would
smash his $4,000 computer with my
$5 hammer and it would be worth
EVERY penny. I know it's not good
to stay with him but he wants to
work things out and I want to make
sure I give it my all before i let
him go. |
25 Jul 2008 19:13
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I do not encourage flirting while u
r in a relationship. |
08 Jul 2008 14:53
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Flirting should be saved for your
partner, otherwise why not just be
single? A real relationship is
based on trust; trust that the
other will not flirt/feel attracted
to/lust after or engage in any form
of sexual or romantic interaction
with another being. Cheating is not
just kissing or sleeping with
another, or even just through
words, it can be merely through
thoughts or eyeing up another.
Flirting in an
innocent/bubbly/friendly way which
is indifferent to age/gender is
fine though, but then again that
isn't considered by all to be
flirtation at all. I'm considered
flirtatious, but I don't 'flirt'
with people in the conventional
sense, I am just very friendly and
understanding. My boyfriend and I
have eyes only for each other, and
that's the way it should be. |
22 May 2008 11:44
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Yes of course you are right.
Flirting with someone else while in
relationship is like burning your
own house. Also other people will
also start having bad picture of
such ugly flirters |
13 May 2008 22:35
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I agree jealousy games cause doubt
and jealousy which undermines
relationships. |
08 May 2008 19:02
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Yes it's not good for the
relationship if you are flirting
with someone if you already have an
relations with someone truly if you
not committed to your luv so you
can't be true towards anybody all
will also do the same as you are
doing. |
06 Mar 2008 07:58
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What you describe certainly isn't
innocent. I'm not sure it should
even be classified as flirting,
because it appears to go further
than that.
Just because two people are
committed to a serious relationship
doesn't mean they're dead or don't
appreciate a little attention.
What you described goes too far.
I'd call that type of behavior as
making advances, and to respond in
any way is a betryal of the
commitment that was made. |
04 Mar 2008 06:05
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If you are in a commentment with
someone then you have no business
flirting with someone else. If you
care about someone you do not have
the desire to flirt outside the
relationship, and shouldn't. |
03 Mar 2008 23:42
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I completely agree as I am
undergoing through this problem
right now!! But I won't blame
myself completely as the other
party, who happens to be my
cousin-brother, knows about my
long-term and true relationship
with my boyfriend!! I always hated
people who have affairs or who
flirt with people other than their
partners. But unfortunately I
became a part of them and became
the victim of a trick against
me...which resulted in the loss of
the most precious thing of my
life...my boyfriend, whom I have
always loved, do love and shall
love forever and ever...no matter
what!! |
03 Mar 2008 18:31
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I think most friendly people
innocently flirt on a daily basis,
and it is normal. But when pictures
are being sent and sexual talk
ensues, it is definitely wrong. I
would be very hurt to find out my
boyfriend has been flirtatious with
women at work. I know from
experience that it can only lead to
trouble. I had carried on a
flirtatious relationship with a
co-worker some years ago. It
started out as innocent, but from
talking and joking everyday, it
came to a point where I was
enjoying the attention so much, and
felt he was giving me more than my
boyfriend was. I broke up with my
man because of it, to try things
out with this guy at work. He also
had a girlfriend. I thought when I
broke up with my man that this guy
would break up with his girl and
want to be with me. I was wrong.
Everyone involved was hurt and the
whole thing totally sucked. But the
moral of this story is, flirting
outside of your relationship can
lead to many things and usually
ends bad! |
03 Mar 2008 17:01
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I agree with this because your
hurting your partner and the
relationship itself by flirting. I
would begin to wonder WHY my
partner wanted to flirt to begin
with! I'd begin to wonder if they
weren't seeking other avenues. I
have also seen some people I have
also seen some situations where two
people didn't explain
boundaries/expectations to each
other in the beginning of their
relationship and when one did
something they found out from the
other they didn't like it and the
other person became very angry. If
they would have discussed
boundaries with one another early
on-that would never have happened.
It would start to feel like maybe
the person who is flirting wasn't
being fulfilled in the relationship
since they are always flirting. I
also don't think it's good to flirt
with others because someone always
gets hurt by this. Especially when
the person they are flirting with
thinks the flirter really means it
but they are just playing with
them. That's not right and not good
for anyone involved. |
03 Mar 2008 09:41
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I completely agree. The problem
can be what people interpret as
"innocent"; it can be different,
and the type of behavior you
describe doesn't seem particularly
innocent when it is sexually
suggestive. Being respectful of
the relationship means the two in
the relationship have decided and
hopefully agreed what is right for
the relationship, and hopefully
both honor that. Outside of those
agreements is outside for both. In
the absence of agreement, to press
it by pushing reasonable boundaries
and toying with the relationship,
taking the risk to harm the heart
of the one you love, is not
honoring the relationship or your
care or either of you at all. |
03 Mar 2008 05:47
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Anything more than innocent
flirting is disrespectful to the
relationship. |
03 Mar 2008 05:28
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 It depends on the flirt! The
definition of what is flirting is
also an issue since the parameters
need to be defined as to what is
flirting. Some would say that just
talking to someone else in a
friendly manner is flirting, as
such the definition is the key
factor concerning this question. If
flirting is of the nature of
enticement and has an unspoken
depth that is noticeably covert and
exclusionary then yes this is
harmful. However the relationship
between the couple should be such
that the factor of cheating,
intentionally hurting or
humiliating and harming should not
even be a consideration that is
remotely within the possibility of
development. People however cannot
be smothered and possessed and
everyone needs to feel that they
are attractive and desired and that
they can be them self freely. This
is where the definition of innocent
flirting and fantasy talk plays
into the relationship. How many
people have a crush on some movie
star or famous person? Should these
thoughts be eliminated also from
someones mind as it violates the
nature of the relationship? The
factor of control and freedom of
thought and the expression of ideas
and opinions as well as confidence
in oneself and their partner are
the real factors that determine how
harmful flirting may be as if the
confidence and trust is based in
truth then the hurt will not
appear. However if one is not
confident in themselves or if they
do not have faith in the others
commitment then the issue become
more of a question of what is the
make-up of the relationship? |
03 Mar 2008 15:39
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Being nice and charming to somebody
else is OK. Flirting has a sexual
undertone. I am sure that if the
one flirting will see his partner
flirting with somebody else, he
will get hurt, angry and offended. |
10 Aug 2008 08:26
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Some people can't not flirt. Some
people, even if they truly love who
they are with, will still flirt. It
is something you can't help. When
you are with another boy/girl you
start flirting, not just normal
talking. |
27 Jul 2008 01:18
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Flirting is fine no matter what
your relationship status. Its a
normal part of interaction between
men and women and cant be helped.
Even when you are in a serious
relationship. |
17 May 2008 20:53
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Flirting is normal. To deny it is
to repress it. To flaunt it is
dangerous. To admit it is deadly.
But as we say, back home: What
happens in Vegas, stays in Vegas. |
26 Mar 2008 14:28
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