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I'm The Type Of Girl Who Doesn't See The Logic Of Marriage... Today, Is It Really Important For A Couple To Get Married Or Is It Much Better To Stay Living In?
by Esphyka Esphyka
 02 Sep 2007 09:10  
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 For Marriage! Why buy the cow when you can get the cow for free! Women need to have a little more pride these days and take pride in what they offer in a relationship...it has value. The price should be a lifetime commitment. Yes, ladies, you are that good. You have that much VALUE! Gentlemen, you too have that much value. Square those shoulders and take pride in taking on responsibility. It is after all the only measure of MANHOOD!
 05 Sep 2007 03:32
by Ela Ela
 Marriage!

It's great for the kids. Later on, the kids will reward you for being a great role model and offering them a secure home life by letting you rock your grandkids! With an intact, committed relationship, a person could possibly live to see just what impact one life makes on future generations.

And somewhere I read that married people actually live longer.

Marriage!
 05 Sep 2007 05:51
by Hi_im_home Hi_im_home
 Marriage is a sacred and inviolable social institution.
This holy union protects both the man and woman and the children they beget. Good values can be instilled in the tender minds of the children when they can see good morale examples.
 25 Dec 2007 08:06
by Amazona58 Amazona58
 Hi,

I believe that one should definitely get married. As it gives you a life partner, with whom you can share each happiness and grief of your life.
 21 Nov 2007 06:26
by Aishawa Aishawa
 Marriage all the way ! If you just live with them then they are more likly to leave.marriage is they way to go.
 27 Sep 2007 20:34
by Grace33 Grace33
 Marriage! People who have lived together, often for years, say that something really changes when you say those vows in front of your family and friends. It really strenghtens the bond between the couple.
 05 Sep 2007 06:49
by Guest Guest
 Yes, marriage is right! Otherwise it would be sinning and jeopardizing your eternal soul.
 04 Sep 2007 19:53
by Norvalpark Norvalpark
 Getting married is better because it gives you both legal rights.
 02 Sep 2007 18:09
by Lightwind Lightwind
 Get married its the best of all
 16 Jun 2008 09:34
by Lucyscar Lucyscar
 Living in for too long is a drag. You lose the right to date, and have all the trappings of marriage without a commitment to grow a family. So I would advocate sleeping over or getting married, but not living in.
 07 Jun 2008 21:43
by Guest Guest
 I don't know every woman. I believe dreams of a beautiful wedding at least one time in her lifetime. I have, my problem with it i guess is if it doesn't work out it hurts more than just two people it hurts both families and if there are any children involved. Financially and as well as any other way. Divorces cost. I think living in would be okay. But only on certain terms. I am living with my boyfriend right now, but I hope to be married someday.
 28 May 2008 23:03
by Llsecrets Llsecrets
 Marriage is best but i am not against living together. Sometimes i think it can be a good thing. Living with someone for awhile will help you get to know that person really well and the you will know if you want to marry that person and spend your life together. I think that's another reason for so many end in divorce today if more people lived together they may see that is not the one for them a whole lot faster than just jumping in to marriage then finding oomg what have i done.
 13 May 2008 13:22
by Lilmama1 Lilmama1
 I think you should be married if you are going to live together although, sometimes it works out good to live together for a while. Just to see what you will be getting, and if you truly want it for the rest of your life! Lol!!!!!!!!!!
 02 May 2008 18:04
by Joyous1 Joyous1
 If you love someone enough to live with them then why not get married? It makes no sense to me. Your love must be very weak if you have doubts as to marriage.
 01 May 2008 19:26
by Cabrunet Cabrunet
 Marriage all the way...though it is not easy...in fact nothing in life is easy. The benefits outweigh the challenges
 16 Apr 2008 19:50
by Guest Guest
 If you are truly committed, marriage. If not, living with someone is your best bet.
 16 Feb 2008 03:22
by Paulajo Paulajo
 Marrige makes people stable in their life. It gives them a chance to make a family, to have children, to stay with their beloved once , to share lives, to become a parent....etc
and for those who says that marrige is bad for children when their parents divorce. Well, it's true but also when a couple who's not married breakup, children are hurt to have a single parent, so we can't say to people
( don't marry or don't have children) coz it just depend on how they live their life & how they communicate with each other. Couples who wants to marry should think wisely about their coming life & look forward for a bright life, not to think that they will be in the prison of marrige. ((:look at the bright side of marrige, coz it's stays long & is so shiny:))
 07 Nov 2007 22:43
by Funnyfun Funnyfun
 I've been married for 13 years now and am torn on this issue. Recently my sister said something about getting married and I advised her against it. I got married at a very young age and had my first child by the time I was 21. I did what I had to do and finished school...went back for more school and finished that. But this is not always the case. Marriage is a struggle and a complete commitment. It has been a rocky path to say the least but I am completely in love with my husband and couldn't imagine not being his wife. I would advise living with the person before you get married because that's when you really get to know someone.
 30 Oct 2007 21:52
by Danieller Danieller
 Yes! Marriage. Thats the right thing to do It is for better or worst It is not always a 50/50 thing sometimes you have to give 100% but life goes on and if you are truely in love and give your best it will work!!
 17 Sep 2007 06:49
by Acorn153 Acorn153
 If a person decides to marry ,it should not be done just because its the done thing. So for me it's a lifetime committment to my wife and the family that generates from it. As a catholic married to a protestant it did raise a few questions. What if my wife divorced me and remarried. How would this affect me. For me it's simple. I will always remain her husband. This does not mean that if i had sex i would be excommunicated. Only if i chose to have a lasting relationship with another woman in the role of my wife. Or have children or marry in a registry office. So while my wife lives i will always be her husband and father to my kids. So for me marriage must not be taken lightly. If you regard marriage as no more than a tradition then you should think about not proceeding.
 12 Sep 2007 02:30
by Padraig Padraig
 Marriage!! When two people get married , they then become one in the eyes of God. It's morally right. I'm old fashioned I guess!
 06 Sep 2007 19:28
by Melissa3 Melissa3
 I would say Marriage, but thats just me, I know alot of people including my daughter at the age of 23 yrs old , I know she was very scared but she had decided to move in with her High school sweetheart, Not much you can say but I was sure hopeing she was not going to make a big mistake, but she did and she did make a big decision they lived together for 1 yr, then they planned their wedding and now at age 28 she completed college as he also did and now they have ( also we are blessed with 2 wonderful grandaughters. They have been with each other now for 12 yrs, thats couting from highschool. So they did beat the odds. Also maybe it is what parents have instilled in their kids. My husband and I have been married for 32 yrs and we were also were high school sweathearts. But it does take alot of work to make a marriage last.
I also got tips from my parents, never go to bed mad at each other
( sometimes that one is hard but I we still do that) dont leave when you you get into arguments, yes thats also hard, but once you step foot out youre door it just will make it easy to do again. So to each is own, but I would not say its a sin.
 05 Sep 2007 00:17
by Walteria Walteria
 Always, marriage
 04 Sep 2007 22:18
by Tjpuggie Tjpuggie
 Def. Marriage(if you are truly in love) It gives you rights, and it gets you to closer together.
 03 Sep 2007 18:43
by Writer201 Writer201
 Marriage all the way. I feel that a marriage is a commitment to stay with one another through thick and thin. It's much easier to give everything up when you are not married. Suppose a fight broke out in the home. A marriage between the two people would keep them from running away from each other and would help them try to work it out. A girlfriend, boyfriend relationship would probably give up more easily.
 02 Sep 2007 16:34
by Shakeit100 Shakeit100
 Different strokes for different folks! Look how many NASTY divorces take place in society today. These are definately NOT good for children! Sometimes two people living together before marriage is best because it allows you to know who your going to be spending the rest of your life with (if all goes according to plan!) and what there lifestyle is! But marriage is not necessarily for everyone! I see many unmarried families who have happy successful lives with out the need of a piece of paper! I have seen many a marriage end in cheating and just because of a marriage bond does not keep them together nor is it always the best thing for the family! People can make a strong commitment without marriage. As long as children have 2 loving adults to care for and love them that should be all that matters!
 08 Sep 2007 15:52
by Phreekshow Phreekshow
 Marriage is a constant struggle, but can have many rewards. I've been married, am now living with my spouse on a part time basis, so I can go when things get nasty. I don't regret my marriage and have many wonderful tales to relate. However, no matter how it turns out, I will never marry again. I lived with my mate prior to my husband for 9 years and the day to day relations were better than they were in my marriage. I want my marriage to work out, but if it doesn't, there won't be another one.
 16 May 2008 23:57
by Deemarcas Deemarcas
 If you have no religious reasons or personal desires to be married than it is a pointless act and a waste of money. Why not plan a vacation together or buy a house with your partner, that is as more a commitment than a piece of paper. You can decide between the two of you what the boundaries of your relationship is, what is acceptable and what is not, but you should never feel like you are forced to be stuck with that one person forever. It should be a decision that you want to be there, and you have to work together to make a life together.
 23 Apr 2008 21:49
by Mamacass Mamacass
 If you don't have sincere religious beliefs to support marriage, it may be saner to not. Even if you're just roommates with benefits it's also sane to draw up a mutual civil contract with the individual copies in safe places, recognizing individual rights relative to various assets and intent relative to any possible progeny.
 07 Feb 2008 10:20
by Hibrida Hibrida
 Marriage is oh so overrated. I've been married, divorced now, and back with her with absolutely no plans to remarry. Like I commented earlier, a piece of paper and/or a ring do not magically make the perfect couple. Far from it. We've got a loving, kind, and respectful home now as well.
 27 Dec 2007 01:25
by Copyman_5 Copyman_5
 Sometimes people stay in marriages fpr all of the wrong reasons, and all end up suffering, spouses, as well as the children. Marriage has become an inconvenience. I don't even bother going to weddings anymore. The divorce rates are so high its unreal. If I knew what I had to go through in my marriage was going to take place, after all I did to keep it together, I would have done totally different. Too many regrets, but that is just my opinion.
 02 Nov 2007 05:48
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