 Personally i hate when people say
"sorry" to me because very rarely
do they mean it. They say it
because they know they should or
because they got caught but not for
the right reason. The only way to
prove your apology is to make
extrodinary efforts to show it.
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 21 Jul 2008 01:14
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 I am going to give conditional
agreement. It is a close enough
call that I almost put this on the
other side, but since it seems that
for MOST apologies, your statement
is correct.
The first time someone does a
particular thing to me that is
wrong, I will accept a "Sorry", if
I think it is sincere.
However, if it is a repeat of the
same thing, then it demonstrates
that their apology was not worth
anything the previous time, or it
would not have been repeated.
Thus, this apology is worth no
more.
Then of course there are the
backhanded apologies. Those
apologies that end with "but". If
someone says "I am sorry I did that
BUT...." then they are really
passing responsibility on.. Usually
to you. Another is "I am sorry you
were offended by .....(whatever)".
This apology is worthless because
it is not saying "I am sorry I
called you a scumbag" (for
instance)... Rather it is saying "I
am sorry that you got offended when
I called you a scumbag", which
implies YOU made the error.
Apology's like these are worth
nothing, and are usually insulting
in themselves.
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 13 Jul 2008 05:43
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 I agree that a SINCERE apology
should be a reason for forgiving
someone. Although, unless someone
communicates to the person who
apologizes what exactly it was that
made them upset in the first place,
the behavior may continue. First of
all, I think it's very important to
let the person know what it is/was
they did to make you upset because
EACH PERSON IS DIFFERENT! (Also,
none of us are without our faults.
Hence, that is what makes each of
us HUMAN. We are imperfect beings).
Finally, I feel if someone thinks
another person shouldn't be
forgiven, then THEY TOO should not
be forgiven for their mistakes! It
even states this in the Bible.
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 13 Jul 2008 07:47
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 Sincere apology + change of
behavior is needed.
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 13 Jul 2008 07:04
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 I agree. A physical demonstration
of your true regret, and change of
attitude is appropriate
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 18 Jul 2008 00:06
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 Sorry is not enough. Remorse and an
action plan for making sure that
the misdeed/mistake don't happen
again are requisite.
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 17 Jul 2008 12:51
by  Guest
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 In many cases sorry isn't good
enough. You have done something
wrong and you need to fix it and
sorry can't help!
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 13 Jul 2008 17:57
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 Your actions...are better than
words..but a true apology is also
welcome with the actions
afterwards.
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 13 Oct 2008 03:41
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 To me words are NOT enough. Back it
up with talking the situation over,
honestly! SHOW me that you're
sorry.........
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 15 Aug 2008 03:55
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 There are many ways to show that
you are sorry /sometime actions
speaks more than words
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 22 Jul 2008 17:40
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 Sorry is a word, not doing it again
is what count. Its like someone
eating all your food then saying
sorry all the time. Most likely
you'll get tired of the person
eating all your food and do
something about it.
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 19 Jul 2008 01:35
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 Sorry only goes so far. If its the
first time chances are they are
sincere. But look into it and
determine are they sorry or are
they sorry they got caught. If it
continues to occur them the person
is not sorry at all and is just
trying to minimize things by doing
what they believe what you want to
hear.
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 15 Jul 2008 21:53
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 Sorry is just a word.
Its only used when necessary after
usually being outed. If your care
about the person you should have
done something in the first place
to hurt them and have to say your
sorry.
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 15 Jul 2008 14:06
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 Forgiven someone for their actions
is one thing, accepting their
apology is another, sometimes they
have to prove that their apology is
from the heart, especially if this
person apologizing, keeps making
the same mistakes.
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 15 Jul 2008 09:05
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 There are many ways to show that
you are sorry, and some of them
might be proven with a card or
flowers, whereas others deserve a
real proof of regret. Actions do
speak louder than words, and I
believe your debate to be true for
the most part.
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 15 Jul 2008 08:11
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 I've had people do me wrong then
apologize and then do it all over
again. When you do me wrong, I
won't hold a grudge, but I'm on my
guard with you after that. It takes
you only a second to lose my trust
and a long time to earn it back. I
will accept the apology the first
time, but if you do the same thing
to me again, you've lost my trust
for a very long time.
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 14 Jul 2008 23:04
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 It is too easy to say sorry and it
means nothing unless the apology is
sincere.
To be really sorry means backing up
the word with action, understanding
why something wrong has been done
and why it has hurt someone and
making sure nothing like that is
ever done again.
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 13 Jul 2008 16:15
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 Yes i agree with you, but i have a
solution for that loll, give a big
hugging whole heartedly and say
sorry,, that will work, I am not
saying simply, i had implemented it
and was successful
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 13 Jul 2008 14:18
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 I give a conditional answer . Like
Jesus said on the cross forgive
them for they do not know what they
are doing(paraphrased). In other
words if the person on both sides
actually knew the heart of the
other they would know beyond a
shadow of a doubt whether it was
enough. Or if they knew what they
did was wrong and if they meant it
when they asked for
forgiveness/said they we're sorry.
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 21 Jul 2008 02:04
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 Well it depends. If your truly
sorry for a mistake, and your
actions truly didn't mean to cause
offense or pain or whatever, then
why is a sincere apology not
enough? You shouldn't need to
receive something in return to
accept an apology.
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 16 Jul 2008 00:14
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