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It Is Easy To Say You Are Sorry Often Because You Are Really Only Sorry That You Got Caught Doing Something Wrong. When Your Actions Cause Someone Pain You Need To Not Only Say How Sorry You Are But You Need To Ask That Person How You Can Make It Up To Them.
by Guest Guest
 13 Jul 2008 05:30  
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 Personally i hate when people say "sorry" to me because very rarely do they mean it. They say it because they know they should or because they got caught but not for the right reason. The only way to prove your apology is to make extrodinary efforts to show it.
 21 Jul 2008 01:14
by Pbfan4 Pbfan4
 I am going to give conditional agreement. It is a close enough call that I almost put this on the other side, but since it seems that for MOST apologies, your statement is correct.

The first time someone does a particular thing to me that is wrong, I will accept a "Sorry", if I think it is sincere.

However, if it is a repeat of the same thing, then it demonstrates that their apology was not worth anything the previous time, or it would not have been repeated. Thus, this apology is worth no more.

Then of course there are the backhanded apologies. Those apologies that end with "but". If someone says "I am sorry I did that BUT...." then they are really passing responsibility on.. Usually to you. Another is "I am sorry you were offended by .....(whatever)". This apology is worthless because it is not saying "I am sorry I called you a scumbag" (for instance)... Rather it is saying "I am sorry that you got offended when I called you a scumbag", which implies YOU made the error. Apology's like these are worth nothing, and are usually insulting in themselves.
 13 Jul 2008 05:43
by Billzbub Billzbub
 I agree that a SINCERE apology should be a reason for forgiving someone. Although, unless someone communicates to the person who apologizes what exactly it was that made them upset in the first place, the behavior may continue. First of all, I think it's very important to let the person know what it is/was they did to make you upset because EACH PERSON IS DIFFERENT! (Also, none of us are without our faults. Hence, that is what makes each of us HUMAN. We are imperfect beings). Finally, I feel if someone thinks another person shouldn't be forgiven, then THEY TOO should not be forgiven for their mistakes! It even states this in the Bible.
 13 Jul 2008 07:47
by Sohogirl Sohogirl
 Sincere apology + change of behavior is needed.
 13 Jul 2008 07:04
by Yergamon Yergamon
 I agree. A physical demonstration of your true regret, and change of attitude is appropriate
 18 Jul 2008 00:06
by Pencil Pencil
 Sorry is not enough. Remorse and an action plan for making sure that the misdeed/mistake don't happen again are requisite.
 17 Jul 2008 12:51
by Guest Guest
 In many cases sorry isn't good enough. You have done something wrong and you need to fix it and sorry can't help!
 13 Jul 2008 17:57
by Hellopeopl Hellopeopl
 Your actions...are better than words..but a true apology is also welcome with the actions afterwards.
 13 Oct 2008 03:41
by Reeree08 Reeree08
 To me words are NOT enough. Back it up with talking the situation over, honestly! SHOW me that you're sorry.........
 15 Aug 2008 03:55
by Sudie1054 Sudie1054
 There are many ways to show that you are sorry /sometime actions speaks more than words
 22 Jul 2008 17:40
by Panson Panson
 Sorry is a word, not doing it again is what count. Its like someone eating all your food then saying sorry all the time. Most likely you'll get tired of the person eating all your food and do something about it.
 19 Jul 2008 01:35
by Redeagle Redeagle
 Sorry only goes so far. If its the first time chances are they are sincere. But look into it and determine are they sorry or are they sorry they got caught. If it continues to occur them the person is not sorry at all and is just trying to minimize things by doing what they believe what you want to hear.
 15 Jul 2008 21:53
by Ezmunae Ezmunae
 Sorry is just a word.
Its only used when necessary after usually being outed. If your care about the person you should have done something in the first place to hurt them and have to say your sorry.
 15 Jul 2008 14:06
by Taphillips Taphillips
 Forgiven someone for their actions is one thing, accepting their apology is another, sometimes they have to prove that their apology is from the heart, especially if this person apologizing, keeps making the same mistakes.
 15 Jul 2008 09:05
by Damm3 Damm3
 There are many ways to show that you are sorry, and some of them might be proven with a card or flowers, whereas others deserve a real proof of regret. Actions do speak louder than words, and I believe your debate to be true for the most part.
 15 Jul 2008 08:11
by Tiggersmom Tiggersmom
 I've had people do me wrong then apologize and then do it all over again. When you do me wrong, I won't hold a grudge, but I'm on my guard with you after that. It takes you only a second to lose my trust and a long time to earn it back. I will accept the apology the first time, but if you do the same thing to me again, you've lost my trust for a very long time.
 14 Jul 2008 23:04
by Mati_f Mati_f
 It is too easy to say sorry and it means nothing unless the apology is sincere.

To be really sorry means backing up the word with action, understanding why something wrong has been done and why it has hurt someone and making sure nothing like that is ever done again.
 13 Jul 2008 16:15
by Rusty08 Rusty08
 Yes i agree with you, but i have a solution for that loll, give a big hugging whole heartedly and say sorry,, that will work, I am not saying simply, i had implemented it and was successful
 13 Jul 2008 14:18
by Skyadamani Skyadamani
 I give a conditional answer . Like Jesus said on the cross forgive them for they do not know what they are doing(paraphrased). In other words if the person on both sides actually knew the heart of the other they would know beyond a shadow of a doubt whether it was enough. Or if they knew what they did was wrong and if they meant it when they asked for forgiveness/said they we're sorry.
 21 Jul 2008 02:04
by Nomad1 Nomad1
 Well it depends. If your truly sorry for a mistake, and your actions truly didn't mean to cause offense or pain or whatever, then why is a sincere apology not enough? You shouldn't need to receive something in return to accept an apology.
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