 If you show that you deserve it and
have shown that you are a
responsible person,all that said
you must earn the trust. |
 26 Aug 2008 00:44
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Give them space but very little
this is the time to see if what you
put into the is any good and if
they will do well on their on sit
back and watch for a little while
and if you feel they made the wrong
choice and that the situation can
only go down hill from there you
step in and interview. |
20 May 2008 17:26
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I am for it, especially and
specifically , if the child has
shown a pattern of responsibility,
and cooperative behavior. If not
then I would not give them more
freedom, the consequences could be
tragic. |
17 Apr 2008 13:17
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I agree my parents didn't really
give me space at that age so i took
it as they didn't trust me so as a
result i acted out.If your parents
trust that they did the best of
ability to raise you right tell
them to just give you a chance if
you mess up then deal with it then
talk to them and keep calm. |
25 Mar 2008 19:02
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I don't want to make a generalized
statement, I can only speak from
personal experience. I was a model
kid growing up. I made the honor
roll, I didn't drink or do drugs,
and I played 2 varsity sports. I
also grew up in a very strict
house. I have numerous examples of
how overbearing my father was.
Anyway, when I went away to
college, I went nuts. It was
because I had never had any
freedom. I have spoken with my
parents, at lengths about this, and
they have come to the same
conclusion. Children need
discipline, but too much can cause
rebeliousness. |
13 Feb 2008 21:13
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 Trust is something that takes long
time to earn. They need a bit more
privacy but parents still need to
check and continued to be involve
in their activities. |
03 Aug 2008 20:34
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You said, "Am I right or are they
wrong." Why don't you flip a two
headed coin. |
25 Jul 2008 07:15
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That trust you mentioned needs to
be earned. I have a 17 year old at
home and she is at the rebellious
stage where she constantly says she
wants to move out. She has lied on
several occasions to be with a guy.
I think if you want space, you
should earn it and show that you
are a responsible person. The only
reason why parents would keep their
children around is because they are
trying to protect them and because
they don't think you are old enough
to make wise or reasonable
decisions if too much space was
given. Expanding outside that
little circle you have make your
parents nervous too. Its a
learning process for you and your
parents. |
13 Feb 2008 17:56
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I'm playing devils advocate here.
I am not totally against this, it
depends on how much more you want
against how much you already have.
Don't forget they were your age
once and probably felt the same at
some point. Unfortunately you have
to earn the freedom you want by
showing them you are responsible
enough to use it wisely so maybe
you should be asking for smaller
bits and proving you do not abuse
the freedom given. They also worry
a lot more about things you would
probably be dismissive about.
Having said that there are some
parents that are too controlling
and over protective, perhaps you
should get to know someone in that
sort of position and then you may
feel lucky for the freedoms you do
have and appreciate it more. Also,
your parents may feel like they are
protecting you taking care of you -
don't forget this is because they
love you and don't want to see you
get hurt. Lastly, I think your age
bracket was a little off, in the UK
18 is supposedly the age of Adult
responsibility, given what some
people of this age get up to
perhaps we should raise this to 21
like the US. |
13 Feb 2008 12:54
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