Do NOT marry this guy!!! Love is a big part of a relationship, as is respect and honesty. If you marry this guy you will be divorced in no time at all.

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The word is spelled DIVORCE and what do you mean it's a "worst" word? People say the word all the time! If you do NOT love this guy, do NOT marry him!!! Do not allow him to pressure you into a marriage that you do not really want, wait to fall in love, the time waiting will be worth it in the end.

 Marriage is a partnership. You work together, checks and balances. I don't think it sounds like your ready to make a commitment that size

 It doesn't look as though you are ready to marry anyone right now. You need to take a step back and decide what you really want for your life. Marriage is a HUGE step and should not be considered lightly. Divorces can be ugly, so try to be as sure as you can possible be before you take that step. It doesn't really matter who your parents or anyone else would like you to marry, you need to go with your heart and marry the person YOU are most happy with, it is your life and in the end you are the one who has to live it.

 I don't think you should marry him if you are not prepared to spend your life with him. If you don't believe in love, how will you determine if another is one you want to marry? There has to be a way, if you expect to marry. If you are not able to return a partner's love, I can only imagine a marriage of convenience. Is that a reason to get married? Have you told your "classfellow" how you feel, because he has a right to know.

I must assume you aren't American because you mentioned your parents' choice. I firmly believe people should make their own choices when it comes to marriage, but I respect your customs and traditions.

Your hesitation and uncertainty suggest that at this time, you aren't ready for marriage. It's such an important commitment. You should wait until you can be sure.

 I think you should go with your parents choice.

 I'm against it i think your parents should have a good relationship with whoever you would marry! Because if not that would just create a space between you and your parents which could also make future problems.
Also since it doesn't seem like your really in love with him so you should take things slowly!

 Don't marry him, especially just because he loves you and you like him. He can try and make you happy, but will you be happy with his efforts? You will always want that something more, because your love for him will be missing.

 Because your parents may see something that you cannot see, especially your father!

 I would have to say if he was the right guy for you, then you wouldn't need our advice. I know that marriage is a big step, but when you are truly in love your heart just knows. I am so proud of my marriage, we have been going strong and believe me we have had some rocky times too. Faith, love, and trust help to keep my marriage solid like a rock.

 Success in marriage can be measured in different ways, and while I'm a romantic i am aware of arranged marriages were mutual respect rather than love was instrumental in having a family. Some people measure success in pounds and dollars, some in how well their children do educationally and some in whether they are happy and healthy. So it would be impossible to give a blanket answer. For me love is an important factor but not the only factor for a successful marriage. :)

 Love is important but if you are doing it by Hurting your parents you can never be happy...by going against them.
Luv is not only to be happy but it is also to make other happy.

 Sounds to me like you are only responding to his love, but do not have what it takes to marry him. Love is more than a feeling, and marriage is more than infatuation. I don't know what your parents see, when they oppose this relationship, but I believe that they love you and that they see something you cannot, at this point. So, I do not encourage you in this. Listen to your parents, and listen carefully.

 Marry him only if you love him, trust him, can't be without him and know that you can make it on your own, but just want him to be by your side , not to be dependent on him, but to share your life with.

 Well love is never for sure if you don't have a grasp of what love really means.

 I am against you marrying if it will upset your parents because you need your parents blessing.Please wait until you are ready and talk to your parents about it.But you also need to study the man you are interested in before you marry to ensure that he is the right person for you.

 You don't marry because you are in like with someone you marry because you are in love with someone and you can't imagine your life without them

 Well, that's your decision. Are you too young to decide whether you want to get married? Are you unprepared? Talk it over with your dad. Why doesn't he want you to get married to him? Maybe you'll find yourself agreeing with him! Are you really in true love? Would you die for this person (please don't, lol)? You must decide for yourself.

 Don't lead the poor fellow on. He loves you, and you don't feal exactly the same way. Either take the relationship a little slower, or rething the relationship idea. Maybe you two weren't right for each other. It is quite possible that this was not the right person for you. This isn't a bad thing - there are so many other people out there that you can find. However, if you do not feel 100% confident with this person, please do not marry him.

 Do what you feel is right in your own heart. Your parents won't be the ones who will commit the rest of their lives hopefully to being in a relationship with this person.

 If you're having a problem making a solid commitment then what I'm hearing is that you're not ready. Remember, M A R R I A G E is considered F O R E V E R. Believe me if you were ready to spend the rest of your life with someone you yourself would know it, there wouldn't be a debate... Listen to your own feelings even though your parents mean well, afterall your parents aren't living with him or having sex with him. Keep your feelings real. Best wishes.......

 Love is an essential part of any marriage that is to last,
but it is not the only thing.
Trusting and believing that each partner will always have the best interest of the relationship as their top priority in any decision that is made.

A marriage needs to have a bit of give and take, as
not every circumstance will
result in total agreement between the partners.

 Total Trust, Total Love, and Totally want to and expecting to find more faults and dealing with them!