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We All Have Our Opinions, I Think That People Should Start Dating In Middle School(11-13), I Want To See What Other People Think.
by Winter2007 Winter2007
 02 Dec 2007 01:01  
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 I agree with devinsbabe. I have two friends (at the age of 12) and all they do is give each other hugs, say high in the hallways and give each other presents. That's not harmful is it?
 02 Dec 2007 23:49
by Cms6 Cms6
 I mean just because you start dating doesn't mean that you are going to do anything.. They might not even go anywhere for a couple of months. If i had to wait till high school i would kill my parents. Boys and girls starting each other at a lot younger age then they used to but that doesn't mean anything.
 02 Dec 2007 14:01
by Devinsbabe Devinsbabe
 I think that middle schoolers should understand that parents have the right to know what is going on at all times and that their dating privileges can be taken away if they behave childish, lie, break rules, or if the relationship is getting too serious. When I was 11, I was allowed to spend time with a girl I had a crush on that summer. We knew we liked eachother and would often be at the pool in the health club where my mom worked. My mom said she was cute, knew she was 13, and didn't mind if we wanted to hold hands. We were never really alone, and I wasn't allowed to have her over to spend the night or anything like that. Once school started, I only saw her once. 6th and 9th graders really don't often have much in common, as was the case in this instance. I'm glad that I was at least given the chance anyway.
 11 Nov 2008 22:29
by Moneyfrom3 Moneyfrom3
 Yes. I think that i doesn't matter how old you are as long as you know you are doing the right thing. Its not as if having a 'boyfriend' in primary school is going to do you any harm.
 17 May 2008 21:44
by Fallforyou Fallforyou
 It's really your choice whether or not you're ready to handle a relationship. Most likely, at age 11, kids aren't going to really do anything with the person they're going out with. But I think everyone should just leave this issue alone, if 11 yr olds want to try it, just let them.
 14 Apr 2008 09:53
by Xoxoxoxo Xoxoxoxo
 I am 11 right now! I want to date, but I am waiting for the right guy. Some people might do the same as me. It's not harmful, they won't kiss, they will probably only see each other at school anyway. Besides, it all depends on their level of maturity. You know, the boundary of knowing right and wrong. You just don't understand us.
 13 Apr 2008 00:32
by Chlofish Chlofish
 I sort of agree with you. I think 12 is the minimum for most kids.
I started dating when I was twelve and that was always group dates.
I never had a serious, alone date until I was fifteen.
 18 Mar 2008 00:06
by Dudewhat Dudewhat
 I don't know really, Me, never having a GF before, and 17, is not really against it. It depends on what the parents think.
 04 Feb 2008 03:59
by Gorillaz Gorillaz
 The adults don't know anything about what goes on in OUR worlds. I started dating when i was 10 yrs. Old.(im 13 now). I dated this one guy. He was awesome. Everything you could you want in a guy. He was sweet,caring,popular, and HOTT!! This was a shock for me cuz i was kinda chubby, really athletic. My 5th grade year was really hard 4 me. That year ny brother was diagnosed with a brain tumor. I was in & out of the hospital until almost Christmas. This has to deal w/ dating bcoz he was there 4 me. Made me laugh when i needed it. Do you under stand now parents!
Even though we aren't 2gether anymore. I will always remember him. I was sad at 1st. But then finally moved on.
 30 Jan 2008 01:00
by Libby2013 Libby2013
 Well I do think 11 is too young, but I think it depends on the person. A person should start dating when they feel ready. From what I have seen kids do start dating when they reach the 6th or 7th grade, but it's nothing more than play. This is because kids are just starting to enter puberty and think about dating.
 09 Dec 2007 20:17
by Cyndal Cyndal
 My response is qualified on really trying to consider the individual and development, yet I have to say I have never known a person of 11-13 years of age prepared to manage any one-on-one dating situation (at least in western culture).

Hopefully, if a child has an aware parent, they will know and guide best, but generally, age 11 is pre-pubescent or pubescent in terms of stage of physical, mental, and emotional development. What this means in real life terms (despite the 11 year old's urges to establish identity apart from the parent(s), is that the child is pushing toward growing up, yet lacks the physiological capability of developed judgment/critical thinking about their own situation as yet. It's not their fault--only a matter of time and natural development. Combined with hormones of adolescence (yeah, I know, been there done that), this is not a good situation in which the young person finds her/himself. The urge to push toward independence and the ability to make good judgment about the potential for emotional damage are at odds, accompanied by raging hormonal development--inviting a problem. No way, no way, is 11-13 generally a good time to be advocating adult-type interaction in terms of encouraging establishing emotional (and possibly a physical) relationship. Given the development stage, most people of that age can manage exploration of relationship with the opposite sex in a group setting much better than "dating". Nature just doesn't equip us with the capacity for intimate relationship management with the opposite sex at that age.

As a parent of three grown children, and having been 11 myself, I would say this is asking for damage to both the child and with whomever she/he is encouraged to develop intimacy. While I would tend to look at the child's development individually, I have never met an 11 year old who was prepared to date and establish/handle an intimate relationship with someone of the opposite sex in a romantic sense. This is a time of exploration, and children trying to grow into adults should be givn the space to explore that safely--maybe more apt for group types of activities and time together. It seems to me our European cousins are far wiser and more responsible to their children in their encouragement of this kind of atmosphere for their youth.

At any rate, maybe high school age is a better time to evaluate that potential. Never, ever 11-13. What a disservice that is to the person who is 11-13 years of age...
 02 Dec 2007 07:36
by Amore01 Amore01
 I think that age 11 is way too young for kids to start dating. Kids "grow up" too fast as it is, but the maturity to have a relationship with the opposite gender is questionable.

I am curious to know if parents think that children that age are responsible enough to handle school , homework and relationships.

We no longer live in an era when 16 year old girls are considered old maids. Kids want to go to college and have careers. They get married when they are older than they did in the past. What's the rush to start dating before some of those kids even reach puberty?
 02 Dec 2007 03:39
by Robbier44 Robbier44
 I guess I'll go on this side to disagree with your statement. I personally think that people should date in high school, when they are able to handle academics and extracurricular activites well. You have so much time in your life to actually find someone, that you don't start looking in middle school.
 02 Dec 2007 01:55
by Shakeit100 Shakeit100
 I think that 11-13 of age is just too young.I am sure the parents of these kids will kill them alive. I personally think that there are practically no age group restriction when people should start dating. Once they have found their 'THE ONE' they will then only start dating. Dun you all think so??
 27 Sep 2008 10:25
by Mindy_16 Mindy_16
 In Gods eyes, dating is the search to try and find your true love. Once you start dating, you never stop.
 14 Sep 2008 22:53
by Batmanfan Batmanfan
 I think dating should start around the age of 15 or 16. 11-13 is too young.
 13 Sep 2008 04:25
by Redeagle Redeagle
 But for the completely unnatural social situation in middle school, kids that age wouldn't even think about it.
 04 Sep 2008 05:03
by Oddman Oddman
 At 11-13, the relationship probably isn't "real" and doesn't really express love. In my opinion, I think those dating at 11-13 just want attention because they think other people will think it's "cute." A better age to date would be around 15-16
 03 Sep 2008 09:33
by Snowfire18 Snowfire18
 In my opinion, you must be at least 16 to start dating.
 03 Aug 2008 21:26
by Charming Charming
 Oh... 11-13?? Too young for dating..
 29 May 2008 16:29
by Jhaneichi Jhaneichi
 Not a chance.. More like 15 or 16 if their lucky.
 17 May 2008 18:26
by Gaseater78 Gaseater78
 I think that 16 is the right age to begin real dating. I do not think younger children are mature enough, or able to make good decisions about themselves and the opposite sex.
 11 May 2008 15:49
by Pencil Pencil
 If you start dating in middle school, that isn't really a good choice because you have to concentrate on your school work and make sure you can graduate and go to high school. You don't want to get an F on your report card for dating this cute boy or pretty girl. It's just not really worth it, if you know what I mean.
 26 Apr 2008 18:06
by Pointweb Pointweb
 I think that it really depends on the maturity level of the person. I am seventeen and I started dating when I was fifteen, which I think is appropriate.
 16 Apr 2008 02:07
by Nadene Nadene
 I think High-school, and around age 14 is a good age to start "mild" dating. Definitely against the middle-school dating scene. My daughter is 13 and in 8th grade, and has done a great with putting it off until High-school. She has friends and a cousin who are dating already, and agrees that they are not mature enough to handle it. She has seen first hand some of the bad situations that kids that age get themselves in to.
 05 Mar 2008 19:59
by Cindra527 Cindra527
 11-13 is too young for a boy and girl to be together alone. I would consider a group date for my daughter at 13-14 years old.
 06 Feb 2008 03:43
by Trinaj1 Trinaj1
 For some reason, 16 is the age I feel it is okay to date.
 03 Feb 2008 02:07
by Paulajo Paulajo
 I think 16 is a proper age to start dating, and only under certain conditions.
 02 Feb 2008 19:06
by Cabrunet Cabrunet
 16 is a good age to start dating.
 02 Jan 2008 05:50
by Bwtsrl Bwtsrl
 No cuz y'all don't know much about live a at such a young age and just be young now cuz u are young 4ever duh!
 24 Dec 2007 03:40
by Ramzydb823 Ramzydb823
 Well, I'm 16 and I started dating at 15. I wanted to date when I was around that age because I was sure that i could handle it, but as I come to realize is that it was just my hormones and nothing else. I talked with guys on the phone from age 10-14 and I really got to know what guys where like o opinions and things like that. I'm really glad I waited though because now I have a very healthy relationship with a wonderful loving guy!!!!
 02 Dec 2007 18:59
by Herkedjaz Herkedjaz
 No kids should start at the age of 15-16. So they can learn how it feels to b hurt. So if they started a the age of 11 and some1 dumps other that 11 year old will have 2 go through crying and being dumped but if u r 15 or 16 u can get over it and move on
 02 Dec 2007 18:48
by Crazianna Crazianna
 I'd say 16-17 yrs is the ideal age to handle a relationship as they will attain a certain maturity at this age with which they can ascertain what sort of person they want to date.
 02 Dec 2007 17:58
by Tamu_rok Tamu_rok
 Dating in grades lower than 9th (before high school) is not really dating, in my opinion. High school, going to dances and such is the time to begin dating.

I guess I would agree with the general consensus in that 16 would be a good age, when you can take someone out on your own and take care of the expenses and planning and all.
 02 Dec 2007 08:14
by Fdjones Fdjones
 I believe you should restrain any dating until your at least 16or 17 and of course get your parents blessings.
 02 Dec 2007 06:40
by Aahn007 Aahn007
 Um I think "dating" at 11 isn't really dating... It's just kids wanting to be older than they really are.

About 16 is when a real relationship could happen between the two teens.

I can't date until college, and i wouldn't want to. I'm too young and it's too much of a distraction
 02 Dec 2007 06:14
by Megamaster Megamaster
 I think freshmen in highschool should be mature enough to handle dating. I think younger, middleschool, kids can do boy/girl activities in groups such as going to the movies, having dances or parties.
 02 Dec 2007 05:13
by Guest Guest
 I personally don't get to date till I'm 16 but I think 11 is WAY TOO YOUNG!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
 02 Dec 2007 04:08
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