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Ladylena
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I may have found a good guy...but he's really eager to be in a relationship and that scares me. I need to move SUPER slow right now, and that's a problem I've been having with guys lately. Advice please.
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Danitas
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Move slowly, assert your boundaries, let your expectations be known... If the present guy runs over your obvious boundaries, he's not the one, move on.
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Yes, I totally agree with DanitaS. If you feel you are not ready, you dont need to force yourself. It's not good. Date with your pace!
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Ladylena
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The thing is, I feel that I should be ready...I'm tired of being too scared to try something that may be a good thing. I always come up with so many excuses why I shouldn't try. I want to know how to stop doing that.
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Hi LadyLena, I agree with lovelyme and with DanitaS. You don't need to meet anyone else's expectations when it comes to setting the pace for any kind of relationship (friendship or otherwise). There isn't a hard fast rule that determines when your heart should be totally ready for you to jump head first in to anything. In fact, I see absolutely nothing wrong with taking your time and I encourage my girlfriends to do the same thing.
It's completely appropriate to spend time getting to know someone and learning about him/her. The greatest thing is that you don't have to decide today that you're going to be completely committed. Take your time, move at your own pace and trust that anyone worth your time or affections will completely respect that (and encourage it!).
Best of luck!
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Ladylena
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Thanks for the advice. I just thought I'd let you all know that I've decided to give it a shot. We're going real slow now and just trying to get to know each other. So far so good!
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Going slow is great. Never compromise your comfort level. Good luck ladylena!
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Advice For Someone A Little Too Nervous To Try A Relationship Again?
Advice For Someone A Little Too Nervous To Try A Relationship Again? 
