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I absolutely disagree when people say love will fade. As long as you always remember the things that you each did to make the other one love you and pay attention to each other as well as make each other number one, I believe that time just strengthens a relationship.
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hi, jolenew, I like your attitude about love. I agree with you and actually i am thinking the same way. But some of my friends who have been married for about 10 years told me that there is no love between he and his wife, they dont say ' i love you' to each other because there is more important thing in their life, such as kids, so all their attention is on the kids. It scared me a lot, I think I am the person can not live with out love, if the love is fading then its not true LOVE, What do you think?
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In a long term relationship it is true that love changes . It doesn't really fade away but loses the freshness of the early days, something absolutely normal by the way. I don't conceive a long term relationship couple doing the same stuff once and over again for 30 years as if they were eternal teenagers. As jolenew say the relationship becomes stronger somehow different and much more interesting. Important factors like children or domestic struggles contribute to settle down and give meaning to the relationship.
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matador, i think your defintion of love is broader than mine, thats why you think your love is changed rather than fading, but in my definition, its fading!
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Ask married people how are their feelings now. Ask divorced people why they had to part ways. Maybe you are now living the love story of the century but I can tell you that it's not going to be the same forever. Everything changes, eventually and for better.
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No, that's not true. If you say that, your love is dead. My parents married many years, they still love each other very much. You need passion, if you forget that, then your love will fade.
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You are crazy if you think passion is going to last forever.
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yes, maybe i m crazy, but i really think passion can last forever, or even increase. If you think passion can not last forever and think people who think that is crazy, then you are over--------
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a negative thinking would be one of the main reasons of why love is fading in their life
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Yes, yes, passion that lasts forever. You've watching too many movies I'm afraid. Life is a bit different you will find out someday.
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Why don't you create a debate with this topic?
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Well said Matador. Of course love and passion fade, it's in our nature. Anyone who says otherwise lives on movie scripts.
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How can you guys say that? Is this also a major difference between men and women???
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Yep - People who are fresh in love believe it will last for a long time like as it is at that moment. But it changes alright, of course it changes! If you think otherwise, I'd suggest you stop watching movies like Titanic. It fades, but doesn't die. Same applies to Passion & Love.
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Lovelyme, your friends who's passion is gone is because they have put other things before thier relationship. When the kids are grown and gone (and that will happen) what is going to be too important then. People can love each other and not be in love, but if they were ever in love, they HAVE to go back to the things they use to do. Me and my husband tell each other we love each other every day several times a day and we go to sleep holding hands. We have been married for six years and I have people ask when will the honey moon end. I have children from a previous marriage and he has none. What does that say?
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I work at a news paper and just placed a 60th anniversary announcement for a gentleman who was suprising his wife of 60 years with a trip to Hawaii. I asked if he had any advice and he said that the most important part of any relationship is to pay attention to the other person. Even if you don't like the things that they do, make and effort to attend something that they like at least once a month. And have a date night every week. Even if you have to hire someone to watch the kids.
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Matador, I'm sorry you don't think passion will last forever. I absolutely disagree with that. My sister and her husban have been together 21 years and they are still really happy together.
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The kind of love you experience while you are dating someone is not the same kind of love that you experience throughout your relationship. My husband is my very favorite person to see everyday. And I do not believe that will change so long as we keep putting the other one first, and continue to hold hands. We will be passing each other in the hall and stop and hug each other. It's all a matter of whether you will let it fade, not that it just fades.
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I just told my husband about all of you who say love fades. And he says if you are going to be that synical about it, your love will surely fade. lol
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Will LOVE fade as time goes by?
Will LOVE fade as time goes by? 
