Do You Think A Compromise In A Child's Discipline Is A Bad Or Good Thing?

Very difficult area here. If you are going this route, then I would have to say, that if your children understand this, then that is good for them. But there are times when you can't be understanding about the important date or event. If they were say fighting in school, then, no they shouldn't be allowed to participate in the event. There has to be a line drawn for stuff like that. Hope this helps.

If you compromise on child's discipline then the child's life will be in tatters. Especially if he /she is a teenager

Here is my thought. If I got in trouble right before an event my mom would have said that I couldn't go. Now that being said with a compromise... I know I can get in trouble before an event and can take advantage of the situation, thus learning nothing. In real life the cops don't give you two weeks or allow you to go to an event when they have a warrant for your arrest they just pick you up and continue with the punishment. So I would have to say that it is a bad thing because they are learning nothing about real life and it's consequences.

Life is not a compromise,the children have to be taught in the way of real life,as we know we may not live to see them grown and someone else may have to be responsible for them,don't think in life and laws,rules etc. There will be no compromise, you were wrong or here is how you should have handled the situation no it is I'm letting you off or here is the consequences, be it a lecture etc.

Well, I am a kid and I think that it could be good or bad  because I don't think I would learn very much if i would be allowed to go but I wouldn't be as mad at my parents as I would be if they didn't let me go. I think you should save the compromise for when something extremely important important comes up. Or else I think they will expect the compromise as they grow older.

I do not think that discipline has to be cruel. I admitted to my Mother that I had skipped school once, and she still let me go to the big concert, that I had looked forward to. I did get punished, but I remember that kindness, and it actually made me try harder to do the right thing.

It depends on the situation.  I am a mother of two and we tell our kids that we want to think about it, and for them to think about it.  They are to come up with a consequence as do we.  We all discuss it, and they still do suffer from the consequence.  There are some situations where we will tell them that there is no negotiating and they will not have a say.  It helps them to understand (in my opinion) that what they did was a big deal and really impacted us.  I have well behaved teenagers for the most part.  Yes, they have their moments, but who doesn't.  As someone who works at a school....trust me....they could be FAR worse in behavior.  Keep up the good work!

I believe that if you compromise too often then the child will learn how to take advantage of the situation i speak not as a parent but a grown up who spent their childhood in trouble you must walk a fine line and as the parent it is really up to you to figure out where that line is

I'm not a parent....I'm just going by personnel experience when I was a kid.
My mom did not compromise AT ALL!!!!!  Now that I'm in my 40's I feel bitter and resentful.

There are lessons to be learned in this type of situation. If the event is a one timer, or far and few inbetween, I would compromise. If not, I would stand strong in my decision. The other lesson is that parents love you and are not just punishing you because they can, so if they know the event holds unforgettable precious memories for your future, they SHOULD  be willing to let you attend the function. This can show love as you pointed out, and still make the child responsible for his ill behavior.