My Boyfriends Mother Doesn't Seem To Like Me. What Shall I Do?

My mother-in-law didn't like me ,and I have three sons and one of them has been married twice and I didn't like either of his wives. It is a mum thing but that isn't to say she won't grow to like you. I ended up being my mother-in-law's favorite daughter-in-law. Just be yourself and show her you are not out to take her place and not going to hurt her son. What makes you think she doesn't like you anyway? That might just be the way she is with everyone.

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Its always hard for a mother when she feels threatned and as if she is coming second place to her son. Treat her with the greatest respect and be as nice as pie to her. Offer to take her out shopping or for something to eat and try to include her in some of your plans. This way you can get to show her your true self and I am sure in time she will see how lovely a person you are.

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It's a great shame that you can't be friends as it's great to have another woman or a daughter in law who you're fond of. As a mother in law who is deeply fond of her daughter in law it's difficult to know why mothers of sons are so negative.

I think the old adage about not losing a son but gaining a daughter is a good one and my mother in law did this with me too. It's not only blokes who have this problem - mothers and fathers of daughters can be this way too.

Probably it's insecurity, over-protectiveness, fear that they'll 'loose' their sons/ daughters but the way to do this is by not accepting partners.

Be as pleasant as you can be to her, despite how she might treat you and see how it goes. Ask her about herself and take an interest in her for a while. If this doesn't work you may have to accept that she doesn't want to be friends with you - that's her problem and there's nothing you can do. I hope your boyfriend has the maturity to support you. Perhaps he can have a tactful word with his mother for you both?

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