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    Myself And My Girlfriend Are In Love With Each Other Fr Past 14 Years...we Both Love Each Other Alot ..NOW She Is Saying Let's Be Friends As Our Parents Won't Agree Fr Marriage....what To Do?

    Myself n my girlfriend r in love with each other fr d past 14years ..we both r happy.. The problem is our parents dont want us to marry ...so she is saying lets be friends...but we both had sex to.. I don't want to use n throw n gal...i wanna marry her.. I love her a lot n she to loves me a lot ..plz help me Wat to ???

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    Karen4s2

    Fourteen years is a very long time! Where were the parents all that time? If she knew you couldn't marry, why let the feelings get so strong? You are very invested in this relationship, and I think you should fight for her. If her parents really love her, they will let her marry you. I am assuming this has religion behind this, and it makes it very tricky. I know that her family is very important to her, but how can you just walk away from the love of your life? You need to talk to her and convince her that she is making the wrong choice. Tell her how much you love her and how you see yourself having kids with her and growing old with her. You can not MAKE her choose you, but if it is real love, she will. If she does decide to listen to her parents, there is nothing more you can do. But, I would bet that after a week without talking to you or seeing you she will realize she can not live without you! I am very sorry you are in this difficult situation, and I wish you the best. Things will work out in the end!

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    I couldn't agree with Karen more... 14 years is a very long time, and for her to just walk away from it like that is crap. Gicvce her space to think, and when she realizes that it was a huge mistake to push you away, you will be there for her with open arms. You love her alot... And for her to stay for 14 years means she must love you alot too. I wish you the best of luck, and yes, everything will turn out for the best in the end.

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      SteveE

      If she is saying lets be friends perhaps marriage isn't the way to go.

      I'm sure there's a lot at play here that's not stated so I'll have to guess.

      Fourteen years is a long time and you where happy for most of this time you will always have that.

      You won't want to hear this but it sounds like it's over.

      If her parents can convince her to just be friends with you then she's not in love with you like you are with her.

      As painful as this may be for you have to try and remove your self from the situation and take an objective look at it.

      I wish it looked better for you, really.

      On the other hand if she really does love you it won't matter what your parents say you guys should be together.

      If this goes south on you just remember that the pain will go away with time.

      The best of luck with matters of the heart to you my friend.

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      Not necessarily. Is she TRULY loved you, she would not give a care in the WORLD what anyone else sais. True love is between two individuals, and noone else. If you love her and she loves you, then the decision is between the two of you. Not her parents. Talk to her, show her that she means the world to you, and if she truly loves you, then she will marry you no matter what it takes.

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