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    Problems With Mom - Can You Help ?

    My mom is gay; her gf lives 2 states away and comes to visit sometimes and I cannot stand her. When I'm around her all we do is argue because she is so angry all the time and says stuff that is not nice. She tries to act like my dad, she gets on my nerves so much. She is moving down here and I have a feeling my mom is going to want her to move in. What do I do? I cannot stand this woman and my mom makes me feel like she chooses her over me ? Yes I have tried to talk to my mom about it and it's all blamed on me. What do I do ?

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    pencil

    This is a toughie! Sorry for your dilemma! I have been a step everything, step kid, step sister, step mom,[you get the picture] its like being the outsider, an accessory to someone else's relationship. Nobody bothers to care how you feel about anything. To keep peace, [peace is good] you need to accommodate the parent, to a degree. This person is your parents partner, and you are not required to like her, but in good taste, be civil, or courteous to her. That simply clarifies the fact that your own moral and ethical code is superior, and that you will not be disrespected in your own home, [respect given; respect received]. Be yourself, set boundaries, and spend time with your friends and other support systems. As much as is possible, stay out of their affairs. Your life will take its own direction, if your focus is clear. There are blessings in your future, trust yourself, and God, to get you through. Peace to You!

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      NASCARNUT

      I presume you live with your mom. Are you of age & have the means to obtain your own place? That is what I would consider as an option for you or live with your dad...♥

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      i cant live with my dad he was abusive and is deeply into drugs he has been arrested a lot and i cant live on my own because i don't have any money or a job i have to apply for a social security card i got the form now I'm just waiting for my mom to take me to drop it off

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      babymai

      It is very hard for you I know. You didn't mention on being under age or over age and depending on your mom. It kinda sound like you might be over 18. All you can do now is just wait to be employed and move out. This woman is the person your mom chooses to be with. If she's not abusing your mom or mistreating your mom in anyway, you can't really do anything about it. You can't be selfish of yourself just because you guys don't get along. You have to think that many other kids don't get along with their parent's partner you're not the only one. Choosing a new partner for your parents isn't your job/choice. You can just tell her gf that you are trying your best to support yourself and you'll feel better if she doesn't bud into your life as much. Wait... Better off telling your mom you appreciated if her gf don't tell you what to do because she's not your....how would I say this... Stepmom?stepdad? I dunno. All I can really say is just be patient for now until you can support yourself. Take care.

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      Icyrock

      This is not easy at all, but you should find your mother's good side, and about the other woman, don't forget that she has the right to have a personal life! i wish for you all the best, you are very brave, good luck

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