Once You Find Your Soul-mate, Tell Me How To Keep The Fires Burning And The Love Alive?

TO me its all about being best friends.. We do almost everything together cuz it wouldn't be any fun without the other.  I really believe its when people start leading those seperate lives you do your thing Ill do mine that they start to lose interest and common ground.. I don't care how hot someone looks or how much lingerie you buy if you have nothing to talk about it starts to fade.  Never stop doing new things and learning new things Together and you'll never get tired of each other.  If you find that you don't enjoy anything the other likes.. Than your not really soul mates.. It's kind of like I never knew I would like reptiles Until he wanted a snake.. And for him I Made friends with the snake and found out I LOVE them.. And He Found out he can decorate a cake BETTEr than I can.. I go look at guns with him.. And he knows the difference between a coach purse and a knock off.. LOL  its all about LIVING and LAUGHING and SHARING.. And Respect always

If you love yourself you love the opposite sex or your forever partner the way you love yourself,encourage him,leave little messages of the sentimental type for the partner,always remember why you picked that person in the beginning never forget why you love the person,do thoughtful things just because,there does not have to be a special moment (you do it just because)and talk lots of conversation never cut off communication,play games often, I LOVE YOU BECAUSE......and viceversa,when things seem to be going array you always start your conversation with I love you because and get right into the conversation always be willing to listen,and girl I know you know some bedroom games that are of a private nature just for you and he,now go girl and get busy....you have work to do hahahahahaha Smile I know you can work magic.....hahahahaha

Laughter, it adds so much. There is a great connection that can be made when you can laugh together. That can couple with spending time together. Which is also vital. Doing things for one another, like special dinners, or a nice long evening walk, have a hobby together.
My hubby and I we play darts together, and have joined teams, and pool leagues. Many, many fun nights out there playing and spending time together. It isn't all that easy, it of course takes a lot of work to make it go.
There is something that is always going to come up that is going to test your relationship, and you are going to have to work together to weather whatever comes your way. Hope this helps, good luck to you.

I wouldn't know, because I don't have a soul mate...I don't even have a boyfriend! I image it is the most spectacular feeling in the world. I hope you find your lova! (And live happily ever after.)

Dena, I agree completely with what everyone said but especially with Anonymouse said.  I can't tell you how to keep the Fires Burning because obviousely I failed miserably at it, but I can tell you what not to do.

Always make sure that nothing interferes with you and your soul-mates personal life.

Both my husband and myself use to like the same things, liked to do things together and loved to spend time together but we were also both very ambitious, worked long hours and if we weren't working then there was other things that needed our attention so he had to go his way and I my way, sometimes we would wakeup next to each other and that would be the first time in a day that we would see each other and then we would talk for a few minutes and then he will be on his way and I'll be on mine.  Well to make a long story short, that is how we drifted apart.

Don't let things become a habbit, everything that is habbit forming gets boring after sometime, so keepon surprising each other with new things and always show each other how much you love each other.

My husband and I grew closer as the years went by, and we were VERY close when he died in 2007.  It was alot of give and take, trying to look out for the other's interests first, lots of love, patience :)  and the like.  But having a strong, lifetime commitment to each other- knowing separation and divorce were 2 words NOT in our vocabulary is important, as is having God as the center.
And forgiveness, respect and trust.  Don't ridicule or belitte each other, or talk down to each, no name calling etc
And lots of romance, dates if possible to keep the honeymoon on.

Always do the unexpected - never be predictable. Keep your sense of humor in good working order. Make it an adventure. Surprise her with the little things that show her you'd rather be here than anyplace else. Compliment her when she least expects it. Pat her on the fanny (or maybe more) as you walk by in the kitchen and she is doing dishes. Remind her in word and deed that you meant what you said in the airport 28 years ago was for real. And one promise to myself that I have never broken - never go to bed angry. Whatever it was that upset the proverbial applecart gets resolved before the lights go out. And that can make for some extraordinary "communication". There are more explicit details, but like they say, "What goes on in Vegas, stays in Vegas". Substitute Mich. For Vegas. Enough said.

As the woman, once in awhile you could let him think he won an argument; as a man I know any argument is never won by the male, ever. Keep your sense of humor at all times, am not saying be silly but to be able to see the humor in situations which warrant humor. You’re in this struggle together, act like it, be partners not adversaries, supportive of each other in all things. Once you’ve developed mutual support and respect you’ll come to appreciate your mate as he will you, turning your time together into a love affair not an epic battle. Do the things which made your partner fall in love with you in the beginning, you keep the fire burning by continually falling in love and feeling the same wonder which you did at the start of your relationship in which you can’t grasp how someone this marvelous could ever be in love with you. But above all, communicate with each other always. As Jim says, never, ever, take an argument to bed; resolve the issues beforehand and what follows can be quite enjoyable.

I agree with the mouse....My husband puts me first, and I put him first......We respect each other as Separate Individuals-----we do not try to change the other.
And-----I swear, WE Are EXACTLY alike. We do everything together, we are rarely apart, and we love it.....We are always holding hands.Always talking, and laughing and teasing, and FLIRTING. We are soul mates. I think we were together in other lives! Never know!

I think that soulmates are naturally drawn to each other.  They do not run out of things to talk about.  They have the same sense of humor.  They can even finish each other's sentence.  When my friend who is married for 30 years describes how she buys the shirt for her husband, I am totally amazed how well she knows him.  That, to me, is how soulmates are to each other.  They take care of their personal appearance but are not obsessing about it. They accept the physical changes that happens because when they look at each other, they do not see the big belly, etc.  They see the one they want to be with at the end of the day and the one they want to see in the morning.

My answer might seem too idealized.  But I haven't seen my soul mate for five years, but when I saw him crossing the street one day, I just know it is him by the way the walks and run.  When he came to visit, I was wearing my cotton work clothes, hair tied in pigtail since I'm working at home.  He took a glimpse and said, "You look so cute, belly and all."

If I knew the answer to this I probably wouldn't be single! Lol I also have not found a soul let alone a soul mate! Lmao

Both of you have God in your life.Every relationship is different ,but from my experience you can try everything and it can still burn out I have to trust God cause I sure don't trust a man without God.