My Best Friend Never Wants To Leave The House And She Is So Incredibly Lazy Which I Don't Think Should Be Normal For A Teenager. Sometimes She Doesn't Even Go To School And Her Mom Just Calls Her In Sick For No Reason. Is There Something Wrong? It's Really Frustrating!

Your friend and her Mum both have a problem here. Her mum is not helping her by making excuses for her and ringing in sick at school. This tight bond with her mother sounds like they interdepended on each other. Her Mother needs to act like a responsible parent and get proper help for er daughter if the drugs are a real issue.
Her Mother is making things worse by hiding the problem.
It's difficult for you to know what to do if her Mother's acting this way.
One thing you could do is talk to someone at school. Do you ave a teacher you feel you can trust? You can perhaps talk the situation over with someone and tell them that you suspect their might be a drug issue. Anything you tell them should be treated in confidence . I'm sure the school is already aware that your friend has a real problem as schools can gauge a lot by behaviour and absences like this.
If you are concerned I think a talk with someone at school would be a very good idea because your friends Mother is possibly unable to control the situation and she needs help too.

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Perhaps she is ill, have you thought of that, could she be suffering from clinical depression, she may well be very lazy, but she is not necessarily doing it on purposes. Do you think that could be the case. Perhaps your friends needs your support, maybe you should think about her, rather than just calling her lazy.

IF her mum is involved, then obviously there is something to it.
Why not ask her mum if there is a problem or have a heart to heart with your friend and ask if its possible for her to talk honestly with you.

I think it sounds like depression or some kind of physical or mental disorder, it's worth carefully speaking to her, be honest but be sweet to her, you can't just criticise her, you don't know what's going on in her head, if you did, you might be a bit more sympathetic.

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Yes, pot can do that to you. As for the mom giving her everything, she is forgetting to give her daughter the most important thing, self-respect. How can a child get off the couch and be in the world when she allows her to shut herself away and not do something with her life is beyond my comprehension. Yikes!
I suggest you ask her some questions such as , what do you want to be when you GROW-UP? Then find some information about just that. show it or talk to her about it.
i understand you feel sympathetic towards her now but unless you start putting the brakes on this friendship she is going to continue and may take you with her. She could use some help from an outside source. Talk to some adults about your concerns and see what suggestions they might have as well.
Good luck and God bless you both

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Her mum and her have a real problem. Making excuses for no reason. It's awful and if she keeps this up your friends mum could be prosecuted. If you are really worried about them both then you should organise some really nice days out and she will enjoy it and want to do it again. Another solution is sit them down and talk to your friend and her mum. Tell your friends mum and your friend that she could easily make a court case because your mums friend is making excuses not to attend school. Also tell your friend the TRUTH. That you are worried about her your health as you she is not getting out enough and maybe you could talk to your friends mum privately so you could organise something all the best
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