Why Do Relationships Fail After Twenty Or More Years Of Marriage?

There are endless reasons for this. It used to be said that seven years was the dangerous period ("The seven-year itch") because the excitement was gone but the closeness of long intimacy hadn't quite arrived.

Could it be because most people marry some time in their twenties or early thirties, so have typically been married for 20 years when they reach their mid-forties or early fifties? This kind of age is one when a lot of people start to think that if they don't change their lives or do something exciting now, they never will. "Something exciting" might include having an affair, going off to see the world or just giving up a steady career - all of which can have a disastrous effect on a relationship.

Or it might just be that people change so much over the years, that unless they have stayed very close and open with each other all the time, after 20 years one or both may find that they no longer have much in common with their partner.

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Honestly, to answer your question, nobody really knows why a marriage can fail after 20 or more years. But in my opinion, it can fail because in the beginning it just was never meant to be and sometimes it can take years for one to discover that. You can lose passion for your mate, interest, and love. There isn't no right or wrong answer to this question. After 20 yrs, you shouldn't grow farther apart from your husband or wife, if anything it should draw one another closer to each other. But often times, it doesn't work out that way. It can be extremely difficult to deal with especially after all those years, but in the end, it remains....it just was never meant to be. I hope i was some help to you.

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My marriage broke down after 25 years he was a good man and we are still friends we go on holidays together but sometimes you just drift apart for no reason at all it was just a comfort zone and there is more to life than that.

The mid life crisis, life begins at forty ,boredom and staying together for the children maybe when the children leave home they feel no reason to stay together.

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There is only one reason relationships fails after so many years. Those involved didn't do anything to keep it strong, interesting and enjoyable. They met, fell in lust, got married and then lived life and never tended to their marriage. Businesses fail for the same reason. They start up, have a few great years and they think they can coast from all the hard work they put into it in the beginning. Not. If you want a hot relationship you must continue to put fuel on the fire.

Successful marriages take work, hard work by both parties

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