How Do I Convince My Parents That This Isnt A Bad Idea?

Possibly your parents don't believe you are mature enough to begin dating.  Are you making a good effort at school to keep your grades up to a level your parents are happy with?  Do you keep your room clean? Are you home at the time your parents tell you to be home?  Do you argue with them when they tell you to do something?  Are you helpful without being asked?  Do you back talk your parents?  All of these things tell a level of a person's maturity.  Do you qualify as a mature young lady?  If you do not, the thing to do is for the next 2-3 months make some changes in the areas that need correction.  Show your parents that you have matured.

Do your parents know the potential boyfriend?  If not, invite him over to meet your folks (with their permission).  Have him spend some time at your house (when your parents are there).  Let your folks see how nice this boy is and what good manners he has and how well he treats you.   

Next make a list of all the reasons you think dating someone older than you is a good idea.  There should be at least 10 good reasons to begin dating this young man (reasons your parents will agree with).  Then show your folks that list.  Ask your parents if you can begin dating in a group setting...a bunch going skating or a group going to the movies etc.  Later when your parents feel more comfortable, ask if you can date him with just the 2 of you going somewhere.  DO NOT AND I WILL SAY IT AGAIN - DO NOT sneak around to see this boy.  If your parents find out you will never be allowed to date him.  Plus, that just shows that you are not reliable (in your parents eyes) and it will be even longer before you will be allowed to date anyone.

What if after all of this Mom and Dad still say no to your dating this boy??  Then you must show some real grown up qualities and say to them, "I know you just want what is best for me and I will accept your decision."  Then do it.  The time will come when your parents will say yes.  

You can still have lots of fun at your age without dating.  There are so many school activities that you may attend and things you can do in a group.  And it truth, you might have more fun without being tied to one boy.  My mother used to say, "There are lots of fish in the sea."  Boy, was she right.  

Just remember one simple rule - No boy is worth crying over and no boy worth anything will make you cry.