How Do You Talk To Teenagers?

The most important thing to keep in mind is that you need to talk *to* a teenager, not *at* him / her. Treat your teen with the maturity and respect they deserve. They are not children anymore so don't talk down to them or treat them as you would a child. You need to understand and accept that they are going from incredible changes and they start to separate from their parents.

It is vital that they be given the freedom to discover who they are and build their own identity.  It is very crucial that you be a good listener. Your teen will come to you less often than before so listen to what they have to say when they do talk to you. Lean to respect their privacy and need for autonomy within certain limits.

As hard as it might be, to keep the doors of communication open, you will have to apologize when wrong. Lectures, guilt trips and nagging are sure to set you back.

Well I have crossed my teen age just 4 years back, so I know and remember that what I feel at that time, when every one talk like a child with me, which I hate.So I believe that we have to talk with teenagers in a friendly manner and don't impose your thinking on them. Tell them that they are elder now, and have to take responsibilities, and buck-up them for there every right work in a very healthy and happy manner. They will feel very high.

Don't ever talk harshly with them; your anger will only give them frustration. They will not feel free to talk to you about any matter. So talk and teach them very politely and in friendly manner, because at this stage they will understand you only if you talk like a friend and will do whatever you want, but if you will talk harshly and impose your thinking force fully then they won't do what you want. At this stage teenager only do a thing which there heart want and like, so talking harshly is useless.

You can tell them right and wrong way, in a friendly manner. The most important thing for the teenagers is the friendly home environment.

The teenage years are very difficult!  It is the "stage" of finding where you fit from the child to the adult world. As much as teenagers want to be treated like adults, they still have child tendencys and actions at times.  I honestly do not believe that talking to teenagers is much different than talking to younger children, the subject matter is more varied, but the tone and respect should be the same. Any of the advice listed below can apply to any child's age! IMHO the first and foremost advice is... Learn to pick your battles!! NO ONE, teenager, child, nor adult wants to constantly hear bickering, "ragging", etc... Set your own priorities as to what is worth working for, and what is able to be compromised on.  Another thing that can be an issue is if you tell a teenager instead of asking.  Could you please... Take out the trash, pick up your room, call when you will be late... Etc... Also, it is important to be respectful and use a respectful tone. With any child it is important that they understand that although you are and want to be their friend, you are first and foremost their parent.
That is just a few suggestions...
Good luck!