I'm very sorry to hear this as all children deserve love and encouragement and support. Of course your mother should tell you quietly what you've done wrong and it's okay to dislike her but keep the love alive that I'm sure you feel for her underneath. Look at it this way - your mother is your parent but also a person in her own right. She may have many stresses in her life that you don't know about. No-one is given a manual when they become parents yet it's the toughest job in the world. It's not your job to worry about her but just try to be patient when she's rude or angry. I don't know your age but you could tell her how you feel when she's not angry and maybe she'll think about it.

As to why you're her child, that's a question brilliant minds have been trying to answer for centuries. Some people believe it's karma from another lifetime. I don't know about that but I believe we are here to grow and learn. If you have a difficult childhood, you'll be a lot stronger later. But if the situation with your mother gets too heavy, find an adult you trust to help you with the problem.

 I'm very sorry that your mother is treating you in this cruel way. I don't know how old you are or what is going on at home but no child wants to be told these things.
Can you approach a teacher or another adult and talk to them about what's going on and how you're feeling? I think that both you and your mother need some help. Your Mum might be going through a very bad patch and might need some help to get her through whatever is making her feel like this.
Can you talk to her quietly and calmly and ask her why she feels so strongly about you and needs to say these things. Perhaps she feels that by saying them she'll get you to behave but this tactic never works.
If you are really distressed by what's going on try and talk to a counsellor at school or your doctor and try and get some outside support and advice on how to cope.

 I was sorry to read the above. MY 13 years son also has the same feeling about me. I get angry with him and as your mother says, I do tell him to die but in reality I don't mean it.

The whole day I work alone. My son comes from the school; he will jump to put on the cartoon channel. He throws his uniform in one corner, and the shoes in another. While eating, he does not know what he is eating because his attention is on the TV. There are lots of complaints from the school. He does not write his class work. I completed all his class work. Soon his final exam is approaching, he has the portion but does not study. I had to leave all the chores and sit with him for studies. I had to sit otherwise he will fail.

Today he said I am a cheap mother from top to bottom. Made me cry. He raises his hand to me. Spits on my face. Although I do not show it, internally I am scared. He said sorry to me but I don't think he was sorry. This happens every now and then. All this he does only to me and to his father. There are so many more things which I can't write because it really pains me.

This may not be applying to you but you try to find why your mother is getting upset. You improve yourself. I have no hope for my son. Probably after my death he might improve.

 I am very sorry to hear this, being a mother she may have much love for you. But her way of expression on you is very cruel. Whenever you do wrongs, she wants to punish you as you must not repeat the same mistake again. Many parents treat the child with harsh words because they want their children not to do any mistakes.

\You also think from your side that your mother is punishing you and using rude words on you means that you must not do any mistakes at least to escape from your mom. You must not give her a chance to punish you.

You must think about your mother she works for everyone of your family and she is having all rights to punish whenever you do mistakes.

My last words are that you have to impress your mom by not doing any mistakes. So, she will not use any rude words on you.

 I am really sorry for the situation you and your mom are in, I think you both need help from somebody on the outside.

Your mom shouldn't say things like that to you. It's not right ,but I'm sure she has problems and she doesn't know how to deal with them and she's just lashing out at anybody around her. I can't believe she meant what she said to you, maybe she just wants your help, but doesn't know how to ask. We all have our ups and downs and it's not easy .

We've all been punished at some point in our childhood and it's just because our parents wants the best for us, they just want us to learn from our mistakes.
Maybe you just don't understand each other and maybe that's the way she was raised and she thinks it's normal.
Try to have a heart to heart with your mom and tell her how you feel when she talks like that and ask her why she says those things.
If it doesn't work, then go get help from somebody you can really trust before it destroys you too.
I hope for the best for you and your mom.

 This is really shocking and very sad for a kid to hear that from any of the parents. While mother is supposed to be the politest and loving person for the kids in the entire world. This is the reason that you are complaining most about.

I do not have words to soothe your feelings or I can not say to you, do not worry it will be okay type of things. So this is the time for you to grow up mentally and look at the matter with open heart. One thing is definite if she is your mother then she is not your enemy. I have assumed from your ID that you are a girl. She might be disgraced by your father or family or she might be facing withdrawal of privileges for giving birth to a girl. She might be worried much for your future, as she would be thinking how to prepare dowry for your marriage and where to get you married sort of things. So be bold enough to assess the situation and do not be a crying baby. Hold your world in your own hands and show your mother that you are not the one she should be crying for.

 Either you or your mother is depressed...
Whatever it may be, no mother has a right to say any of these to her own child; I cannot even imagine what you as a child must go through, every time she says these things...
My father once told me not to visit him at home, and he did not give me a reason, and I still have not gotten over the feelings of hurt and heartbreak that this gave me. If a simple statement like this could hurt a person so very deeply, then how much more could such abuse hurt a child?
If you are a depressed person, and you make a mountain out of a molehill, then my advice to you would be to see a counselor immediately.
Or, at the very least, talk to someone who you trust, and believe will lend a sympathetic and unprejudiced ear to what you have to say.
Do not delay things, take action immediately.
Also, make new friends who love you for what you are, and understand you well.
Never lose hope…

 I can't tell you that your mum is right, because she don't try to solve the wrong act, but she adds another wrong act.
Maybe she was raised in a hard atmosphere, or maybe she's having some kind of depression. Some stress or problem made her like that, but still she's trying to lead you to the right way. (in tough way of course)
Try to be her friend and avoid mistakes, ask her opinions in some decisions of your life.
She'll be proud of you and she might stop saying those bad words.

Live peacefully with your mom because you don't know what will happened tomorrow, believe me, you'll miss her. She's your MOM.

Sorry for the bad treatment you're having from your mom, wish you good luck & a happy life.