I Have A Conspiracy For Every Thing My Husband Does?

You have to make a decision whether or not you really want to know...        If you do, then prepare yourself for what ever may come- and talk to him about it. It seems like you don't trust him, and if you don't or can't trust him, then you gotta let it go.... If you really love him, and are willing to give something up for him, then turn a blind eye to it, and pack your mistrust away and roll with it. If you drive yourself crazy, you'll drive him away. It's an uncomfortable spot you're in. I, personally, trust my instincts... You, however, have been previously scorned, so you may be a little jaded. Communication is key...

The real bad thing is that if your instincts are telling you that something is going on, then it probably is.

There is the other side of it which it does not sound like is going on here but sometimes a partner wants there to be something going on so it justifies what they are doing or want to do. It's a double edge sword.