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Why Is My Boyfriend Obsessed With Asians?

I have been with my boyfriend for almost a year now and have really never had a complaint. We're so great together, laugh all the time, enjoy the same things and have a very open and honest relationship. From the beginning though, he has been into Asian girls. His longest previous relationship with an Asian girl, he only seems to enjoy Asian pornography, he spent one year of college in Japan and fell in love with his host family's daughter.. I'm not Asian, and I feel like he will never desire me like he does them..

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    Have he cheated on u ? If so he is not the one because he should only be with u and not into no one else
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    Mochabee22 

    answered 2 years ago

      If your relationship is so good then why does he need to use pornography, perhaps this is something you need to address with him. As a man, i could not imagine the need to have pornography if i am in a healthy and loving relationship. Am i just being old fashioned.?
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      Padraig 

      answered 2 years ago

      I don't think you're being old fashioned, it's great that you don't need pirnographya nd recognise that the need for pornography demonstrates somethign lacking in a relationship.
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      Ruthbug

      Ruthbug

      commented 2 years ago

      No you are not being old fashioned....i wish my boyfriend didnt look at poirn
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      Elishoemak

      Elishoemak

      commented 4 months ago

        It could be more than a fantasy rather then an obsession.
        Its like..guys like porn right? They think porn stars are fit and they like to imagine being with them and having sex with them but what makes it better for them is that its FANTASY and not real..it would never happen in reality.
        Hmm I'm not sure this answer is helping
        What I mean is its probs just something in his head something that's just little its like we all have our little obsessions like when we fancy celebs n stuff in no way should you feel your not good enough for him because you are not Asian.
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        Louiseey 

        answered 2 years ago

        i googled 'boyfriend likes asians' because my boyfriend and i were talking today and he just carelessly brought it up that he 'has a thing for asian girls' ... he says and has said in the past the he doesnt watch any porn any more but...i dont know, is he full of shit about not watching porn, since he has a thing for asians? im his first girlfriend and first everything...we've been together almost 3 years...*sigh*
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        Guest

        Guest

        commented 2 years ago

        Omg I have the EXACT same problem. Sometimes it feels like I'm not even good enough! My boyfriend also was in a relationship with an Asian woman for almost a decade. I know he's with me, but seriously, how do I compete with a RACE? I'll never win, and I'll never be what he TRULY wants. How do you deal with this?
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        Mousy622

        Mousy622

        commented 10 months ago

        I have the same problem as well but his ex was my best friend. They dont talk anymore now but he recently told me he thinks Asians are good looking.
        :( :( :(
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        Guest

        Guest 

        answered 7 months ago

        Leave them!!!!
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        Elishoemak

        Elishoemak

        commented 4 months ago

        I find the whole thing a bit bizarre.  My boyfriend is obsessed with his asian ex-wife and also is completely addicted to asian porn.  He once told me how much he enjoys porn and when i asked him why he had to talk to me like that (like i'm one of his buddies) he started screaming and swearing at me that it was his business.  I haven't mentioned it since but it does give me the creeps as if he and other guys just see these women as sexual fantasy objects and not human like the rest of us.
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        Guest

        Guest 

        answered 5 months ago

        My boyfriend likes white girls as it seems. Im more than average good looking and above average intelligent asian girl, but he just got so used to dating white girls and i feel i cant compare and it hurts me deeply.
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        Anniebanan

        Anniebanan

        commented 5 months ago

          Hey...listen..i am an asian myself...its not like "all asians are great"....
          Infact we are petite with small frames...and not-so-curvy butts...u dnt have to worry about u competing us...coz..i dislike being small-made...if ur bf is really serious about his relationship wid u...ask him to stop watching all that with nice words..if he doesnt listen..kick his ass...as there are much better guys out there.... Ill tell u a trick...if he finds asian gals sexier...u find irani guys sexier and tell him the same....u keep talking abt the physical attributes about irani guys....
          Seriously ..i tell u.... There are some really great guys from muslim countries..to go mad over...
          Tell him that...then he'll understand..how much it hurts uu....if his behavior doesnt change...then leave him!!!!.....cant expect any better from him.......but mind you...most guys and some gals...are turning out to be this way....u cant expect many honest relationshipss.... Days are changingggg...!!!
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          Guest 

          answered 4 months ago

          I would totally get plastic surgery to look Asian
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          Guest 

          answered 5 hours ago

          It is an obsession with allot of men. I have heard every reason from they are smaller and tighter (sorry) to they are more wild. Whatever it is, he will overcome it sooner or later and it will make your relationship so much better when he does.

          Best you can do is talk to him about it and be honest about it. Tell him it bothers you and is making you feel like his attention is pulled away from you due to it.
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          Fdjones 

          answered 2 years ago

          That is freaking dumb "smaller and tighter" and more wild? I dont think so. Do you know this from experience or you're basing from movies and/or porn magazines and videos?
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          Anniebanan

          Anniebanan

          commented 5 months ago

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