How Do You Get A Deadbeat Mom To Have A Conscience?

Unfortunately, it is not possible to make a person have a conscience.  Take solace in the knowledge that life will one day pay her back for it.  Karma is very real.  It may not be until she is old and alone, and wishing she had people around her who care about her... But it will happen.

My brother has two girls one of which is his biologically and the other is not but his name is on the birth certificate for both of them he has always carried health insurance for both and took care of them he was never married to there mother and they finally broke up when the girls were 3 and 4 he has only received 12.00 dollars from her in child support she don't have anything to do with them and i have stepped in as the female figure in there life they are now 11 and 12 there mother is always in and out of jail and they know this and there is no way she has a conscience and i don't believe you cannot make her have one until she decides to do the right things in life and grow up!

You know, it is really hard to imagine a woman who gave birth could not want to see her children unless she is strung out on drugs or something else is going on in her life that maybe she is embarrassed about.  Do you know how to get in touch with her?  I think it is pretty pathetic.  I  suggest trying to communicate with some of her relaives, her mother, sister, brother, father if possible and see if they can talk to her to see how she feels about seeing her children or maybe someone from the church.  Is there something between the two of you that may prevent her from wanting to see her children.  Even at that, I don't think I would be able to go 6 years without seeing my children.

It isn't possible to make someone harbor a conscience though I wish it was, even with a conscience we won't always oblige to the little nagging thought.

There is nothing anyone can really do and if she is forced she will only see them when she is forced to, until she can find a excuse not to anymore, sorry to hear of such a person hope the kids are OK and get them therapy so they won't feel like it is their fault.......the best to you

They are probably better off without her.  My deadbeat husband knows the man I am with now will take care of his kids so he thinks he can party till he dies.  If he wanted to see them after they turned 18 I would leave that up to them, but I would refuse to let him see them otherwise.  6 years is a long time and your kiddos don't need the strife. I wouldn't bother looking for her because if she has no desire to see them, it may end up hurting them and you even more if you try.

Take your child from her then maybe she'll wake up