What Is The Chemistry Of Love ?

Trust is the main factor which holds two people together in love.

Chemistry of love refers to the connection between two lovers. It refers to the depth of love between them. The chemistry is at its peak when the lovers have just fallen in love. It's up to them to keep adding fuel to the fire they have ignited. If the fire starts dying so does the relationship. It is very important for lovers to keep trying newer things to spice up their relationship. New lovers will always be enthusiastic on meeting their partner in the initial stages of the relationship. They will talk for hours and even all night long. They will have a constant smile on their face whenever they are talking to each other. They will associate each and every thing of their life with their partner. The lovers are full of energy and are on cloud 9. You'll never see them sad or angry with anything. But, after a period of time, there's a lethal explosion. The chemicals are leaked out and their world's is in danger. They can't see each other eye to eye any more. They have had a chemical overdose and so it's the end of everything. There are some lovers who are just not contended themselves and end up getting married to each other.

When sparks fly between two people, we're quick to say they have
"chemistry." Not everyone realizes that such couples literally have do
have chemistry--it's what's behind those sweaty palms, the jumpy
stomach, thumping heart, and nervous jitters. Chemistry also
contributes to that warm, comfortable feeling you get from being with a
longtime partner.


In the mid-1960's, psychologist Dorothy Tennov surveyed 400 people
about what it's like to be in love. Many of her respondents talked
about fear, shaking, flushing, weakness, and stammering. Indeed, when
human beings are attracted to one another, it sets off quite a chain
reaction in the body and brain. But there's a perfectly logical
explanation to those intense feelings.


The most well-known love-related chemical is phenylethylamine -- or
"PEA" -- a naturally occurring trace ammine in the brain. PEA is a
natural amphetamine, like the drug, and can cause similar stimulation.
This natural upper contributes to that kick-up-your-heels,
on-top-of-the-world feeling that attraction can bring, and gives you
the energy to stay up all night talking to a new love. Sometimes this
energy translates into the triple-espresso jitters; other times it
simply keeps you wide-eyed and alert long past the time when you'd
usually be yawning. "I always get excited about somebody who can keep
me up late at night," says Elan Freydenson of New Jersey. I really
value my sleep.



You can also get a non-romantic dose of PEA from high-intensity
activities like skydiving, or by eating chocolate. According to
Chocolate.org, chocolate contains small amounts of our love drug, PEA.
That might be why some people use chocolate as "comfort food," getting
the same warm, relaxed feeling from chocolate as others do from Mom's
chicken soup.


One of the substances released by PEA is the neurochemical dopamine. A
recent study done at Emory University shows that female voles (small
rodents) choose their mates in response to dopamine being released in
their brains. When injected with dopamine in a male vole's presence,
the female will pick him out of a crowd later. Our love food,
chocolate, also elevates levels of dopamine in the brain.


In turn, Dopamine stimulates the production of oxytocin, sometimes
known as "the cuddle chemical." Oxytocin is best known for its role in
mothering, stimulating contractions during labor and aiding with breast
feeding. According to BirthPsychology.com scientists now think that
both genders release this nurturing hormone when touching and cuddling,
with the oxytocin level peaking during orgasm.


Another euphoria-inducing chemical in your brain, norepinephrine,
stimulates the production of adrenaline and makes your blood pressure
soar when near the person you're attracted to. That's why you might
experience a pounding heart or sweaty palms when you see someone you've
got the hots for.




How do our emotions get translated into physical sensations? A U.S.
News and World Report article explains the importance of the vagus, a
nerve that threads through your whole body. It transports signals from
your brain to your organs, "setting the heart pounding, making the
stomach do flip-flops, and of course, lighting the loins on fire."
Everyone knows that jumpy, sort of sick feeling in your stomach. Some
people call it a "hollow" feeling, while Elan Freydenson describes it
this way: "That weird feeling falls somewhere between my belly button
and my heart. It feels like tension building, yet it feels great and I
want to have that feeling more often."


Tennov's group also reported "intrusive thinking," where it seems like
your brain is fixated on the object of your affection. When your heart
rules your head, there's actually one part of your brain running the
other: The cortex is the area of your brain that controls logical
thinking, while emotions are processed by the limbic system. When too
many happy chemicals like PEA and dopamine flood your brain, they head
straight for the limbic system.

Some scientists believe that after a certain period, from 18 months to
4 years, one's body gets used to these love stimulants. After building
up a tolerance to uppers like PEA, passionate romances can cool into
what Helen Fisher, author of "Anatomy of Love" calls "attachment." In
this phase of the relationship, your brain produces endorphins, brain
opiates more like morphine than speed. "Unlike PEA," says Fisher, "they
calm the mind, kill pain, and reduce anxiety." So what some people call
"separation anxiety" might actually be a form of drug withdrawal.


The idea that the "honeymoon period" of a relationship is fueled by
different brain chemistry than what is present during the mellower
years that come later might explain why some people can't seem to hold
long-term relationships: They prefer the revving-up affects of brain
amphetamines to the pain-killing effects of endorphins.


"Divorce rates peak around the fourth year of marriage," says Charles
Panati in his book "Sexy Origins and Intimate Things." "The initial
'highs' of love have lost their chemical underpinnings Marilyn Monroe's
classic film "The Seven Year Itch" should be retitled 'The Four Year
Itch."


Lynn Harris, co-creator of BreakupGirl.com wonders if it's the other
way around. "Relationships take work. They just do. And people get lazy
after a while," she says. "So do they get lazy because they're getting
immune to the chemicals, or do they get lazy because they just
do...which triggers a decline in the chemicals?"


In the end, even hard-core scientists agree that chemistry isn't
everything. Culture, circumstances, personality, and scores of other
variables help decide who turns your head and who leaves you cold. So
don't try to reproduce that lovin' feeling in a basement chemistry
lab--but do try your best to enjoy the natural highs that life gives
you.