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    Have A Wonderful Next Door Neighbour Who Lives On His Own. Is It OK To Be Friends?

    Have been friends with my next door neighbor for several years. He is a bachelor and works hard so my son and i cook for him sometimes. Now my husband has told me i am not allowed to as he pays for the food in our house not the next door neighbor. I am very upset with my husband. I was always brought up to share everything. My neighbor eats takeaway all the time. I know the cost of food is very dear but my husband still eats very well.

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    KnutRbuttR

    Tough one, I know my husband would start to get jealous if I did that and he knows he is the love of my life and has been for 20+ years. For some reason, a lot of men don't understand that it is true, a man and women can be FRIENDS and nothing more. I know this didn't help much but wanted to let you know my hubby wouldn't like it either and I work so he can't say he is the one that buys the food. Maybe he is insecure in your marriage, but then again, with the cost of fuel and groceries, maybe that is the honest reason why he wants you to stop.

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    I couldn't have said it better dear!

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      mscupid

      Don't kill me 2489, but I have to side with your hubby on this one. I read and re-read this and I see your hubby's point. Your neighbor is NOT starving, he works hard as you put it and obviously can afford to eat carry out every night. It's probably cheaper for a single person to eat out vs cooking because you have to consider the electricity or gas that it takes to cook with. You're helping him SAVE money and COSTING your family more....give hubby a break, I think he's right on this one. I don't see the harm in cooking for him every so often, like when your family has a cookout...invite him over....Thanksgiving, etc, invite him over. I'm sure your hubby would be more understanding under these circumstances. Perhaps sometimes your neighbor could invite you and yours out to dinner to take the burden & cost off of you cooking all the time.

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      life

      Yes I agree with both "mscupid" & "knutters".
      Men get jealous & insecure easily when they see that their better half is showing sympathy, taking care etc of someone else.
      Since your husband said "he pays for the food in our house not the next door neighbor" that means he is talking about more expenditure on food(& You know rising food prices!!). It shows little chance of being jealous or insecure.

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      Peace

      This could only work out if the husband wanted him there. It's a shame that this guy couldn't be friends with both of you. When someone marries they need to make sure they spend special time with their spouse. Dinner is usually a family thing unless a guest is asked over for a special occasion. I hope he is able to find someone to share dinner with.

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