I'm 22, My Dad Is 64 And My Mum Is 54. I've Always Been Worried About My Dad Being Older But Now I`m Going Through A Stage Of Worrying About Both Of My Parents. I'm Very Aware (especially My Dad) Of Them Getting Older. It Scares Me So Much That I've Recently Been Laying Awake Thinking Of It. I Don't Know What I Would Do Without Them. How Can I Stop Thinking Of Such A Depressing Subject?

I have also been going through similar emotions, although the age gap between me and my parents are not as great. I think if you have kids, you would also not want them to be worried about the same thing. I often wonder how I would raise kids myself, but once you become a parent (as my friends tell me) you realize and understand how the situation applies to you.

My suggestion is that you need to first show your parents that you are prepared to do a lot more things and become more independent, because that way they definitely won't worry about you as much once they pass away, and getting a positive feedback from your parents about your ability to stand on your own will give you the confidence that you can move on. If you can use your depressive thoughts as a motivation to make your parents as happy and as comfortable with your growing and maturing, then you are both doing yourself and your parents a great favour.

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I can remember feeling exactly the same about my mother, who was nearly 40 when I was born. She's now nearly 80 and still very much with us. This really, truly is one of the things that gets easier to accept as you yourself get older. Right now you still probably feel dependent on your parents. You're afraid of losing them because you love them, but there's probably also a feeilng that you can't manage without them; and you may also be wondering how you'll cope with looking after them when they get old. Both these fears become less of a problem over time. When you've had other responsibilities, helping your elderly parents seems less of a worry; and I think also as time passes you realise that getting older isn't such a bad thing. Your parents may be looking forward to retirement! Maybe you could tell them a little of how you feel. They'll probably be able to reassure you, that what looks bleak to you may look less so from where they stand.

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You sound a very caring person.
You may be suffering from mild depression if you are going through all this anxiety over your parents. It would be a good idea to talk to someone about how you feel - you probably won't want to talk directly to oyour parents in case you worry them. Perhaps your doctor could help?

Your parents aren't really that old you know but to you at 22 they must seem so. Your Mum is just a young thing really!

Have you had a berevement in the family lately that has made you think this way?
Alot of people have older parents who live to a great old age, others have young ones who don't.
Do try and talk to someone about this anxiety as it's spoiling what should be a great time in your life and I know it sounds easy to say but your parents likely have years ahead of them yet. Wait 'till your in your 40's saying how much you're worrying about your elderly parents!

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Stop worrying about their age and what will happen in the future - which is clear anyway, even if the date isn't - and get on with enjoying your time with them both while they are here.

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There's no need to worry. My mother and father are both 54 years old and i'm 13. I'm not worried about when they'll die. I am sure your parents will live for a long time yet. Just be happy with them and spend time with them whenever you can. When they do die, they will go to Heaven and watch over you.

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I'm 51 years of age and lost my dad 24 years ago on the day I had my second son. I was heartbroken. He was 39 when he passed away. my mum and dad were the same age mum is still alive shes had open heart surgery i lost 2 brothers one aged 30 and one 35 take a few words from me all u can do is love them and be there when they need you when our time is up theres nothing we can do. Make the most of what you have there's people who don't have 2 parents out there.

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We must do the best for them.By thinking of them we should not stop our progress.But we are living for them.We should find a good position for them to be safe.And then only we should be settled for life.Keep them with u till their end of life.

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YOUR 22YRS OLD , START TAKING ON SOME RESPONSIBILITY , IF YOU HAVEN'T .. I LIVE IN MY MOTHERS HOUSE , SHE PASSED AWAY ALMOST 4 YRS AGO ..I AM 39 AND I LIKE BEING INDEPENDENT .. I HAVE A HOUSE THAT NEED KEPT CLEANED UP AND DISHES DONE AND LAUNDRY DONE , I CAN NOT DEPEND OR WILL DEPEND ON ANYONE ..UNLESS A HOT 18 YR OLD WANTS A HOME AND WE GET MARRIED THEN MAYBE I'LL GET LAZY .LOL JK

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