I Want To Marry Someone From Another Race, But What If My Family Doesn’t Accept It?

Choosing to get married is a big step in and of itself. It is a life-long commitment in which you traditionally bind yourself and all that you possess to another person. Even under the most ideal conditions, a marriage is a risky venture. Marrying someone from another race may make the whole process that much more difficult as many people will face criticism, rejection and questions from family members who do not understand or are operating under their own prejudice. However, despite everything else that may be going on, remember that you are choosing to marry this person and that you have to live with them, not everyone else. Only you are responsible for making the choice and even if the family does not accept the person, just because they are from another race, that does not mean you have made the wrong decision. While it may be an initial shock, most people do eventually accept their new family member, and if not, you will have to make a difficult choice, however, make sure it is one you feel is right no matter what anyone else says.

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I think that familly is really, really important but if you love this person enough to marry her or him I don't think the color or the race of that person sould be an issue. You love that person enough to marry so your family should just be happy for both of you and you'll be the one living with that person so its your decision.

Family is important but the love of your life is important too so I wish you the best.

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The institution of marriage was established to legalize the living together of two individuals. It also legalizes the resulting procreation and family bonding. However, in time, we have added to the conditions acceptable in society and have complicated this simple and beautiful institution. First, the caste system divided man from man and then came the restrictions on the institution of marriage.

Our society is as rigid or as liberal as we make it. This query would attract different answers in different societies. There are societies, within which inter-caste marriages are not considered taboo or looked down upon. In fact, the members of such societies are known to extend a lot of support to such couples. But, we also have societies within which, such marriages are not acceptable. It is commonly observed that such societies question the religion of the offspring, even before they are born! The members of such a society give more thought to the religion and caste of the person than his or her character. It is obvious from your question that either you belong to the latter or have an inquisitive mind and wish to find a solution. If you marry a person of another caste, in a rigid society, it is likely that you would have to put up with a lot of resistance. If the opposition is one sided, the issue has some scope for resolve. However, if it the opposition is from both the families, then there are three options to choose from:
- Buy time and try every possible way to make love succeed, with a lot of patience.
- Give in to the issue and please the elders.
- Oppose and question society boldly.

Your decision would depend on your attitude and involvement and the support of your chosen mate.

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