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Generally it is not a good idea to live your life for other people; however it all depends upon the age of the child. Older children such as teenagers, often take moving quite badly as they have already made strong friendships and they are at an essential point in their lives where they are trying to fit in. If they are moved it could cause various problems as they may end up being bullied or they could isolate themselves in a new school. However, that isn't to say that you shouldn't move.
Whether you have younger children or older children, you could make a compromise and take them back to the area you lived in every so often, such as once a month or every two weeks depending on how far away you are moving. This will help them to stay in touch with any old school friends they may have. Also, invite their friends to come and stay with you occasionally. This will help your children to feel a lot more settled and they should take the move a little better. Overall, you need to do what is best for all of you. If you do have older children and they are at a vital stage in their school year, it would be unfair to move them; this means that you may have to wait a few months to a year before you make your move. Think things through and discuss it with the family, only then will you really know what to do!
answered 2 years ago
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My parents played the Real Estate market in California during the 70's, moving around extensively.
I didn't have long-term relationships during childhood and cannot point to a home/town that I'd say is my childhood home.
I gained a flexibility that has allowed me to travel and live around the world comfortably, I make friends very easily, I can deal with change with ease as well.
What I have trouble with is maintaining those great friends and I sometimes crave change just for the sake of it.
Just wanted to add one persons experience, overall I'm quite happy with life so take it for what it is. Good luck.
answered 2 years ago
Go for it. As long as you have a strong close family unit you can make it. Children make friends very fast (even in a country where they don't speak the language!) and you will too through their schools.
Waiting until they move out is a waste of your life - you don't say how old they are, but do it now while you can!
I lived in many different countries as a child (my father moved around a lot - and not for work!) and am so glad I did - it has enriched my view on life immeasurably and I speak 2 other languages. I also went to Australia 5 years ago with my hubby and 2 boys (8 and 13 at the time) - we all just loved it - it didn't work out and we came back in late 05 - it did upset the kids and they have had to get used to a new school etc... but they both say they would not have missed it for the world!
Good luck - I wish you all the very best in your adventure - go with your gut feeling!
answered 2 years ago
I agree... Not on moving to a different country, but a different enviornment on a child can be helpful. For teens especially. My best friend (im 20) moved when i was 11. I still talk to her every day, see her every summer and still consider her my best friend. But, she needed the move, she has a lot of good friends down there and will always have her best friend in her hometown.
