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I am not at all convinced that being single is such a negative thing, so do not be afraid to wait until you are a bit older before you enter into a long-term relationship with someone. At age 20, you certainly have nothing to be worried about if you are single, or if you are not yet in what you think may be a committed, long-term relationship. Remember that in the UK, the average age that women get married now stands at about 30 years.
Something else to keep in mind is that you cannot really dictate whether or not a relationship will be long-term, or something a bit shorter, since this also depends on your partner. Just consider finding someone with whom you feel comfortable and with whom you share common values and interests. Whether or not this turns out to be the "pefect love," only time will tell. But at any rate, you should not feel that you must jump into something, or make a life-altering decision just because you fear being single. If you are single, I am sure that you will find someone eventually, but until then spend time with your best friends and enjoy everything that your freedom and independence have to offer.
answered 2 years ago
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Don't want marriage if you're looking at it as being a way to keep from being alone that will be the biggest mistake of your life. The reason iIsay that is because if you get into a bad marriage, you will be unhappy and feel as if you're alone anyway. If you meet the right person and things work out you wont have to worry about that because you will be married for the right reasons rather than out of being afraid of being alone. The hard part will be figuring out if you are really in love or if you're just doing it out of fear... Just ask yourself if the going gets tough (and you better be certain that it will) are you going to be willing to work your hardest with that person to save your life long commentment.. Through the anger and frustration and disagreements... You have to be able to say yes to that question, if not I wouldnt even bother.
answered 2 years ago
I never thought I would say this but I know what you mean when you have to decide if love is what you what or if it is something that one looks for out of fear. I have to say that I want to find that women that I can find love with. I look forward to being able to give myself whole heart.......ly
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I think women shouldnt be looking for "the right man." This makes you want every man you date to be Him. Hence the reason why breakups hurt so bad, when the relationship didnt even last that long to begin with. When the right one comes along, trust me honey, you'll know it. Dont be afraid of being single. Youre a woman. We're a race within ourselves. Be a proud woman, be strong, hold your head up high. Men like a confident woman. Youre 20. Im not going to tell you to youre in the wrong because of your age and already wanting commitment. We women like that sense of protectiveness, and security. There is someone for everyone. Be patient my love. I think you will find yours real soon.
answered 2 years ago
At 20, you have many years ahead to find your `ideal' mate. Once you settle down, especially if you have children, you will have to embrace responsibility and narrow your life options. So, don't be such a rush to get married. Neither being married nor being single is the perfect lie. Both have pros and cons attached. I can't help feeling that you have a rather romantic view of marriage and if you enter into one without due consideration, you could really live to regret it. Enjoy being single for the time-being. There's no ideal mate anyway. Every relationship has its imperfections but if you shop around before committing, you'll have a better chance of finding someone better suited to you and then work together on building a good relationship. It doesn't sound very romantic, I know, but far more real and solid. Being 20 is great. Enjoy it without all this pressure you're putting on yourself. There's a lot of terrific stuff about being single, especially at your age.
answered 2 years ago
20 is very, very young. I know it doesn't feel young at the time, but believe me, when you are 30 you will look back on your 20 year old self and think "That was really young." And nowadays people live much longer than they used to. Because of this, we are able to take time to enjoy every stage of life more than before. We now stay at school or college much longer, change careers sometimes in mid-life, and also marry and have children later. These are great freedoms which should be cherished.
It's a sad fact that a person you fall in love with at 20 is likely to be very different by 30, and completely different by 40. And if you and your husband live to be over 80 (most people do) we're talking about a LOT of years.
So I would strongly advise being a lot more carefree and light-hearted, for the next couple of years at least. Get to know the kind of men you like, the kind of life and work you want, in fact the kind of everything you want. Being single is nothing to be afraid of anyway; in your early 20s, it's the perfect state. Enjoy your life!
answered 2 years ago
No, I'm actually in a 2 year relationship. We've been through everything and we're talking about marriage and I'm getting scared. I have a few ex's coming out of the woodworks and wanting to try again, that I of course still have old feelings for because I never have bad breakups. Me and my boyfriend are going through a hard spot right now, and I'm not sure what to do.
answered 2 years ago
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