How Do You Comfort Someone Who Is Grieving?

Just being available to her when she wants to talk or just be with you. Don't worry about what you are going to say to her. Tell her you are there to listen if she wants to talk. If her parents just died, she is in a state of shock and the grieving process takes some time. Everyone grieves differently. Hope this has helped you. Peace

I lost my mother when i was 16 and for me the only thing that made it better was time, but during the mean time try to keep her busy keeping her mind off it will make it a lot easier, and as her best friend i would try not to talk about your parents to much, i know when i would hear people talk about their mom at first it was really hard for me, so just try not to use the words mom and dad to much around her they will be sore words for a while and it will bring up the reminder that she doesn't have them anymore.

Having lost a grandson, and then two years later his father (my youngest son) I could not have made it through the pain and grief if it were not for my relationship with God. Granted, I am much older, but if you can learn early in life that we are the creation of God and that He loves us and watches over us you will begin to look at things much differently. We must also know that God is in control of everything and when our life on this earth is over we will know the answers for all things good and bad that happen in our life.
Instead of being angry with God when my son died, I began to thank him for all of the years that we had together and the love that we shared. It was when I put all of my faith in God, concerning my son, that I realized that He very possibly saved him from a painful and agonizing death had he lived. As it was God chose to take my son suddenly and nearly painlessly in just an instant.
In the Bible, before Jesus ascended up to Heaven, He told His disciples that He had to leave them but that He would send a comforter to them, and that comforter is the Holy Spirit. Through the Holy Spirit we (your friend) can find comfort for our (her) losses, knowledge in the things we don't understand, and security in knowing that God loves us.
Just always be there and pray for your friend. As her friend, you can call upon the Holy Spirit to give you the wisdom and words to say that will comfort your friend at those times when she really needs it.
God Bless you for being such a devout and concerned friend.

To be honest I am like you! I really love giving people hugs and I LOVE comforting them but I always feel awkward doing it or I am scared of rejection! Stupidity is, when My Grandad died I really wanted a hug but it had to be from the right person, for instance, this may sound crazy but the last person i wanted to talk to about it was my mum and so in front of her I acted really well and didn't show the fact my heart ached. I found better comfort in friends than in my family because I wanted comfort from someone completly differnet who was no relation to what had happened that would remind me of it... In the end I found the best thing was if I looked upset my friends would just chat to me and if I wanted to cry or talk about it, they were there to talk back or put their arm round me. Human touch is always a good comfort but the last thing people want to hear is ' It will be ok' becuase your not crying to hear that, you are crying because you know you have lost someone or something, but to have a big warm hug is the best remedie anyone could ever have!!!

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