How Can I Understand The Experience Of A Man Who Was Sexually Abused In Childhood?

Child abuse specially in less developed countries is on growth. Many children face the inhumane and uncivilized behaviors mostly from their elders. A recent study conducted in India pointed out that the most of the kids who were sexually abused knew the person who abused them. Another striking factor is the fact that most of these kids never told anyone what has happened with them. Therefore it is really difficult to identify  a person who has been sexually abused in his or her childhood.

One of the most important characteristics a sexually abused adult show is somewhat aloof and abnormal behaviors towards certain elements. They might be reluctant to meet with people and show certain kind of behaviors specially towards kids. They may also show an strong possessiveness about their children and may not allow them to go outside or meet with people frequently.

Another important thing to notice in the behaviors of these people is that they tend to be over obsessive with some thoughts which might force them to repeat some behaviors at frequent times. Repetitions  of  certain behaviors may point towards the serious abuses made on these people at some point in time in either their childhood or adolescent days.

The only thing you could possibly do is to try.
A sexually abused child often grows up into an adult with several problems. He or she may find it difficult to adjust to another person, especially if it is a partner who expects a deep abiding relationship. Insecurities and fears may abound in the person's mind, and he or she may either shun sex completely, or revel in it.
He may have made attempts to get over his experiences, but they may return time and again to haunt him. He may or may not have seen a professional about the issue, and others around him may or may not have handled him after the abuse very well.
What you must or can do is be patient with him, try to be understanding, get a few good books on the subject and read through them thoroughly, so that you may be able to see his viewpoint better.
This will lead to better understanding; which will strengthen your relationship.