Is There A Reason My Husband Of 2yrs Never Holds Me Kiss Me Tells Me He Loves Me I Must Have 2 Do Or Say Things 1st Then He Say's It Back?

I think that men sometimes forget that all the things that you do to get the girl, you need to keep on doing to KEEP the girl... It seems that they take it for granted, but I think that it's more innocent than that. My guy is just complacent because we're best friends. Facts is facts, men n women are wired differently. Men, (no offense) play checkers n women are trying to play chess.. The playing field looks familiar. Maybe it has to do with men being hunters and women instincts to nest......

A lot of guys come from homes where displays of affection are really frowned upon.  Check out his family, maybe his behaviour is "normal".  Nobody I know is getting enough hugs and kisses.  We are all needing more.  I feel for you, we all need to get love in the way that WE feel it, not in the way THEY give it, and this, is the stuff of novels.

I have been married for about  5 years now and my husband has acted like that a few times I guess men think that once your married that your his and he can quit trying. But what has worked on my husband is playing hard to get like when we first met. You know put on that perfume he loves, dress up just a bit more and when he says hey I want you right now, don't give in until he is begging!! If that doesn't work then there maybe a deeper issue!

Before you and your husband got married was the physical and verbal affection there for you? Something to think about is when did you notice a change. Was there a major event that happened either in your life or his. Men are different from women obviously. Women are emotionally based creatures. We need emotional reassurance from our partner. Men are physically based. For them to feel that loving connection they need the physical side (sex).
Men do not understand why we need the continuous verbal reassurance of how deep their affections run for us. To us women it is so simple, but men have a tendency to make things to complicated, then they become frustrated feeling like they will never understand us, finally they throw in the towel and fall into a low complacency level where all they do is what they need to because they are unsure of how to handle our needs.
I think that you need to sit down and discuss this with him...draw pictures if that is what it takes. You need to show him how your relationship has changed since you have been together. Make him understand your needs and why you need to be reassured in both a verbal way and in a more physical sence. Have him explain his needs.
The most important thing to remember is do not make him feel like he is the complete screw up here. This will only make him resentful and he will pull away further.
Use the old "I" statements, don't point fingers.
If this doesn't work talk to a couples counslor, or if you are both religious ministers, clergymen, etc. Works wonders also.
I wish you all the best in the world...

Yes it is true maybe while growing up at an early age he did not see a lot of affection like parents kissing or hugging or sweet talking... If this is the case he grew up not knowing how to show affection.... Or he probably associated pain with showing affection in public and stuff like that (maybe his parents didn't show much affection toward each other around him). He might of got a reward from life by doing other things but never got a reward from showing affection or watching people showing affection toward each other this can be considered pain. If he did associate a pain you need to find out the source of this pain and address it. Also not showing affection in public is most likely a fear. Help him get over this fear.

Sometimes the women is the one who always takes the first step.I don't think that he doesn't love u my boyfriend is the same way if i don't tell him to do something he won't do it.Just relax don't worry about it.