How Do You Help People Change?

Bringing about changes is one of the most vital objectives of a counselling process and it is said that "Substantial change requires the alteration of the heart".

To change an individual start of by understanding his or her problems, make them feel special and spend as much as time possible with the. Point out their negative aspects but not in a direct or blunt manner, try to be soft and polite and explain things to the. Ask them to see and face problem in a positive manner, get them involved in activities and other stuff that interests them.

Changing people is not an easy job and will not happen overnight you will have to be extremely patient and understanding. Make them understand in a proper manner the need for the change and ask them to see life and face life in a much more positive manner.

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Changing people can sometimes be difficult to do...People have to want to change, that's the first step in changing. You can't make them change. But you can want them to change and the rest is their decision. However, helping people change can also be a task because the question will be...Do they want help? If they do, then that's great, maybe you can be a positive example for that person...Sometimes people will not admit that they need help and the first step is admitting to your problems. Some may feel ashamed or they may feel that no one will understand! Whatever the circrumstances may be, if they want the help then the change will slowly but surely start to progress.

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I'm glad you phrased your question as `helping others to change' and not changing people or making people change. It's a very delicate business because no matter how much you care or think your way is better, every human being is on their own path and therefore, entitled to make their own mistakes and their own choices. So - how can we help if someone is really causing themselves problems or pain? Of course example is the best way. Whatever you want to help someone with, be that thing yourself, for instance, if they drink too much, don't preach but be moderate yourself.

If they display other forms of bad behaviour, try to display better ways of operating and show them the benefits. Actions really do speak louder than words in this matter. The other thing to try is to gently point out different strategies, courses, books, whatever else might help. Say it once and leave the seed to grow. This is particularly important with young people. Most people respond very poorly to criticism, nagging, preaching and the like. So, softly, softly is the best approach. Love them into change!

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