Ok my mom and dad were killed In a car wreck I'm staying with my older sisters and friends my baby daddy is not stepping up to the plate some people say I'm only a child myself.
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Do his parents know about this? Since you don't have parents to take the child, then what about his parents? Are they even qualified enough to take care of the baby? If you aren't really ready for this, you need to think about all the options that are available to you. You can see if your older sister will help you, or the other grandparents, or even the hardest decision of all, putting her up for adoption. I am really sorry that your "man" is doing this to you. He probably wouldn't even pay child support. I think you need to talk to your sister, his parents, if you want to involve them, and keep the welfare of the baby in the front of your mind while you are making this incredibly tough decision. My hopes and prayers are with you, good luck in the future. Hope this helps you out.
answered 3 months ago
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Laylay, if you feel that you are not in any position to raise a baby financially, emotionally, or otherwise, consider adoption, but be extremely picky in choosing a family and check them out thoroughly. Through adoption, you may choose to be in your daughter's life, or if that's too difficult to handle, you may also request anonymity. The choice is ultimately yours to make. I know that this is a very difficult decision, especially for a girl your age, as your decision-making skills are not fully developed. I urge you to speak with someone about your concerns, whether it be a doctor, a family member, or another trusted adult. Above all else, pray to God for wisdom and peace, as He will grant it. Trust that He will help you to make the right decision.
answered 3 months ago
My advice would be to see your doctor with your sister and ask for a paternity test to prove the child is your boy friends. Your doctor probably will advise you to go to court and get a court order to help the process along. I would take that advise. Then once you have absolute proof its his ask the courts to set up a mediation between you and him with your sister present and his parents.so that you and him could talk about what is best for this child.of course you are not ready for it what person is at your age?
he is probably acting like he because he is not ready either thats why if you had someone to talk to while he was pressuring you they would have told you not to .but because you did this puts you and him in a position to grow up faster than you should. But do not make this decision alone ask your sister for help and tell the child's father he needs to step up that it takes two to tangle and produce a child. Good luck
answered 3 months ago
If you do not feel ready to be a parent, then it is apparent that you are not ready! Being a parent is a big job and it is not full time it is all the time! 24/7 for the rest of your life. There are many different options available now a day including adoption. Sometimes being a kid is tough especially at 14 but being an adult is even a tougher deal. There are many free counseling options available in most states that deal with you situation and can better explain what is available to you. Raising yourself and a child at the same time at 14 without and education and job is asking for a very tough road to travel. Being responsible shows signs of maturity and being to ask for help and finding the right help is the step you need to follow. If the father is being wishy-washy now wait until the real deal starts and see who is at the starting gate with you!
answered 3 months ago
I disagree with your statement about not being ready if you don't feel ready...I was 21 when I had my first child. I did not feel ready at all, but after my daughter was born, all childish things vanished and I stepped up and became a mother in more than just the physical aspect...
comment made by Elle-n-eva 3 months ago 
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You should keep the baby. My mum gave me up for adoption because she was too young and in those days there wasn't anything like an abortion (that was legal) I grew up feeling unloved and unwanted. You'll find if you look after the baby yourself you will always get through.
answered 3 months ago
You have three options.
1. Adoption.
2. Abortion.
3. Keep the baby.
I personally would go with adoption but it is your decision to make and you should talk to your sister about this. I am sorry about your parents. You are 14 so the pregnancy could be harmful to you and in that case (if it is life threting) abortion would be the best option (if the baby cannot live outside the womb). If you keep the baby you will have to take care of the baby and it will be hard. And you should go get a DNA test to see who the father is, if it your ex-boyfriend then (if he does not want to pay child support) sue him for it!!! But be fair, if he is paying child support (and not abusing the baby) then let him she the baby. No one can force you to give up your baby or force you to get an abortion. You can go to this site to find out more about the laws in your state: en.wikipedia.org
answered 3 months ago
Just ask your parents about how they did it.
That should help you.
answered 3 months ago
Dude, read the question. Her folks were killed in a car wreck. Jeez.
comment made by Chilledpip 3 months ago
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