Do his parents know about this? Since you don't have parents to take the child, then what about his parents? Are they even qualified enough to take care of the baby? If you aren't really ready for this, you need to think about all the options that are available to you. You can see if your older sister will help you, or the other grandparents, or even the hardest decision of all, putting her up for adoption. I am really sorry that your "man" is doing this to you. He probably wouldn't even pay child support. I think you need to talk to your sister, his parents, if you want to involve them, and keep the welfare of the baby in the front of your mind while you are making this incredibly tough decision. My hopes and prayers are with you, good luck in the future. Hope this helps you out.
Laylay, if you feel that you are not in any position to raise a baby financially, emotionally, or otherwise, consider adoption, but be extremely picky in choosing a family and check them out thoroughly. Through adoption, you may choose to be in your daughter's life, or if that's too difficult to handle, you may also request anonymity. The choice is ultimately yours to make. I know that this is a very difficult decision, especially for a girl your age, as your decision-making skills are not fully developed. I urge you to speak with someone about your concerns, whether it be a doctor, a family member, or another trusted adult. Above all else, pray to God for wisdom and peace, as He will grant it. Trust that He will help you to make the right decision.
In hate to say anything like for your sake and the babys cause I am sure you would be a wonderful mom - But you are in for a lifetime of heartache struggling and more heartache and struggling. I would go online and research open adoption- this lets you always have some contact with your baby girl but really good stable people would raise her- I am sure as I said before you would love and care for your child but it would be soooo hard. You would get financial support during your pregnancy from the couple you choose and some even fund you to finish school and get in a good college to better your future when your ready and find your true love and stability- No matter what take care and God Bless. Sorry for the loss of your parents at such a young age-My heart goes out to you.
If you do not feel ready to be a parent, then it is apparent that you are not ready! Being a parent is a big job and it is not full time it is all the time! 24/7 for the rest of your life. There are many different options available now a day including adoption. Sometimes being a kid is tough especially at 14 but being an adult is even a tougher deal. There are many free counseling options available in most states that deal with you situation and can better explain what is available to you. Raising yourself and a child at the same time at 14 without and education and job is asking for a very tough road to travel. Being responsible shows signs of maturity and being to ask for help and finding the right help is the step you need to follow. If the father is being wishy-washy now wait until the real deal starts and see who is at the starting gate with you!
I see by your other post that you had your child. But I wanted to comment this still. I'm 19ys old, just turned recently. An I have a 2 1/2yr old son. My son's father an I ended up getting married, we decided to give it a fighting chance for our son's sake. An unlike the previous girl. We are still together almost 3yrs later. He joined the army way back when I was 6m preg. An we have been a military family since. So yea I know the feeling of not being read, an that did not make me a unfit parent, nor did it mean I wasnt ready! I grew up quick I changed my ways an I'm proud of the person ive become. I know its hard being a parent, I raised my son alone most of his life, an my husband is about to deploy again this fall. So when someone trys to say you were to young, or you think its just to hard... Life is hard. You can do this, you ARE doing this. This is you now, its who you will be til you die. Your a mother. An congrats to being one. Happy early mothers day as well
I'm sorry to hear of your loss. I will be totally honest and open with you. If you feel you are mature enough to go out and have sex with someone even if you are in a relationship with that person then you must appreciate the fact that you should take responsibility for anything that might happen ie: Pregnancy or disease. I understand you are young and legally you are still a child but you must now take control of the situation you have got yourself in. I think you should visit your doctor and have a chat about your worries and feelings as he will be able to give you advice and maybe get you some help with your problems.
I personally would go with adoption but it is your decision to make and you should talk to your sister about this. I am sorry about your parents. You are 14 so the pregnancy could be harmful to you and in that case (if it is life threting) abortion would be the best option (if the baby cannot live outside the womb). If you keep the baby you will have to take care of the baby and it will be hard. And you should go get a DNA test to see who the father is, if it your ex-boyfriend then (if he does not want to pay child support) sue him for it!!! But be fair, if he is paying child support (and not abusing the baby) then let him she the baby. No one can force you to give up your baby or force you to get an abortion. You can go to this site to find out more about the laws in your state: en.wikipedia.org
You should keep the baby. My mum gave me up for adoption because she was too young and in those days there wasn't anything like an abortion (that was legal) I grew up feeling unloved and unwanted. You'll find if you look after the baby yourself you will always get through.
