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Parents can be really selfish when relationships go wrong and it's often the children who suffer most.
This is a horrible situation for you to be in.
You could show them these replies to your plea for help and let them see how hurt you are.
It's too much for a person of thirteen to cope with and they need to see the effect their behaviour is having on you.
Do you have a relation who you can go to and tell them how distressed you are? You need an adult to approach your parents with you as they are so wrapped up in their own problems that they aren't seeing what it's doing to you.
Sometimes people at school can help. If you have a favourite teacher ask can you talk to them. You can also approach your doctor and childrens agencies such as social services. Three years is a long time to be unhappy like this.
Think about whether or not you can tell them you need help and can't cope with them anymore - this might bring them to their senses a bit.
Let us know how you gat on and do go to someone for help.
answered 2 years ago
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Every person wishes to lead his life in ideal conditions but it is not always so. Very few people are lucky enough to get idealized conditions according to their wishes and desires. You are the one who is facing adverse conditions from your parents totally against your desires and wishes.
The problems you have mentioned in your question are very common in the Western society and now a days in the Eastern society as well. Mostly the children of such houses feel themselves ignored and neglected. So far your query is concerned that what should you do is that first of all you try to keep your mind intact and be firm on your decisions. To skip off from such a situation is not the solution of your problem. You are the only chain, which can convert the relations of your parents to a better side.
Try to make your parents realize through your actions and response that they are not doing good to you as well as to their relations and wife. You can talk to some of your friends or relatives in confidence who could very well talk to your parents and realize them about their fault. I hope your problem will be solved and you will start leading a happy life with your parents.
answered 2 years ago
A lot of times, adults behave stupidly, and it affects the children around them. What your parents are doing right now may affect you strongly; in fact I think it is affecting you strongly. But running away from home is not the solution. That is a very bad world out there, and the security that a home provides is something every child requires. Even though you might feel bad about how things are between your folks, it is nothing compared to the hardships you will face when you are out there on your own.
You are at a tender age, and need to tread carefully. May be a good idea is to seek some help at school. If you have counsellors there, or a teacher you can confide in, do that. Tell them what is happening, and then they can in turn advise you on what to do. They may even end up having a talk with your parents. No child has to face the consequences of a strained relationship between the parents, and you are certainly entitled to all the happy things that a 13-year old deserves. You could talk to your parents too, if you could, but a lot of time they merely shrug aside the feelings of the children as mere childish behaviour. The best bet is to let some adults intervene – someone at school with the credentials to make your parents listen to them, relatives who have the authority to get the folks to listen to your problems, etc. In the meanwhile, you could concentrate on other things that would help you build on your life. There are a lot of children in your situation who go on to make a good life for themselves, and that is what you should be trying to do, instead of trying to run away.
answered 2 years ago
Running away from home is not gonna do anything much, they well be concerned a lot and maybe even blame each other of why you ran away. Try talking to them about it , even tell them that because of their fighting all of the time you can not concentrate on you studies etc and tell them that you wanted to run away too, that may give them a sign of how seriously it is effecting you
answered 2 years ago
I am very sorry about your situation. Don't feel sad. Lots of grown ups are fools, don't let them hurt you.When they fight, just ignore them and concentrate on something else.I have separated parents.Before they were separated, they were really horrible to each other.
My father said bold words and nasty, mean blasphemy and I couldn't bear it and cried and my mother was very rude to Sparkle, my old goldfish.I no longer care for my parents and I dislike them.grown-ups are like that- they expect you to put up with injustice and don't bother considering your feelings. Don't let them upset you- just stop thinking about them and try not to care about them.I really hope this helps.
answered 2 years ago
I know how you must feel...
It is indeed terrible to have your parents fight constantly, and cause great tension for the others around them, especially for their children.
No matter what, please remember, none of what is happening is your fault. Adults sometimes fail to see eye to eye with each other, and this will result in disagreements and arguments all around.
Perhaps your parents have not decided that they can actually live without each other, and this is the reason why they have not attempted to get a divorce.
Please remain patient, let your parents sort out their problems, and do not interfere or take sides, as this would hurt one or the other of your parents terribly.
These things will run their own course, and there is really nothing you can do about it, except do your own things, and carry on your daily routine in as normal a way as possible.
Never lose hope, things will work out for the best at the end, they always do.
answered 2 years ago
Running away from problems do not solve them. You should sit down and talk to your parents about how their quarrel puts you in a worrisome situation. Everyone has their cup of woes. My dad passed away when I was 2. Since my mom is not keeping too well, she has to go to the US for treatment. I am living in Trinidad trying to solve my own problems. Cheer up mate. Life is only tough when you make it tough. Enjoy your life and you will find the world is really beautiful
answered 2 years ago
Do what i do. Don't think about the future,think about whatever happens ,happens.what you are going through is nothing compared to what i go through everyday,you don't even want to know. Just don't run away,that will make thing 100 times worse. God loves you and that is all that matters right now. Just pray everyday and good things will happen to you soon.
answered 2 years ago
Talk to an adult you trust. Get some information about teen support groups. You are not alone. You'll find many people who will be happy to help you. Teachers, guidance counselors, scout leaders, ministers, etc are all very used to helping with problems like yours. Don't give up until you find some help from an adult!
answered 2 years ago
Hey buddy, i feel sorry for you. These parents sometimes don't think about the consequences of their deeds but running away is not a solution to any problem and it won't do a world of wonders for you. Just be optimistic and try to talk to your parents about all this and try to find a solution then.
It might play some trick as they might understand your problem i.e because of them just be good and good will come to you and drop the worst idea of running away.
answered 2 years ago
Well it's a very common matter among many families and due to this many children have been affected.
Its so simple not only you can save your future but also you can make life happy for your parents as well. From now on you decide with your self that it's a challenge for you and you have to make them together again. You just start telling it toyour mother that your father is a very good man and due to some work load he need us to help him out. Try to create some love and sympathy in the heart of your mother and ask her to please treat him gently and do care him , now in return do the same with your father , also argue it in front of your parents separately that it is really affecting your life future. Do not even think of running out of home but try to pay your part in the whole situation. They both do not get love of each other and its your turn to fill their hearts with love and then they will really give importance to you and will listen to you in every matter and will feel ashamed for what they are doing. I hope it really works. Wish best of luck and I hope you act up on my advice
answered 2 years ago
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