Dear Zureena,
Please do not take it the wrong way but i think you get your kicks from chasing after the unattainable. A lot of young women make this mistake of dating a committed man. The novelty of the experience comes from it being a taboo. Soon, even if he leaves his wife the novelty of the whole experience will wear off and you would not like him as much as you do now. Our first and last love is self-love. Besides, I doubt even you'd enjoy breaking another woman's home. The questions you ought be asking yourself are whether it would be fair to the other woman? Or her kids? Will you ever be able to trust a guy who would leave his wife for your sake? He might as well leave you for another some day.
You should let him go & why am i saying that.....
First of all it won't be fair to his wife & children. I am sure you'll regret in your later life that you was one of the reasons of breaking a woman's home & her children's life.
Second & most important, a man who can leave her wife after three kids, must be doing that coz of just material love or obsessive & such people are never loyal to anyone.
I have to agree with the answers you've gotten already, and add that many women find themselves in the same position as you, and by the time they realize that things are never gonna change, it's been 10 years, and they've missed out on the prime of their youth.
The fact that you have noticed this already, says some wonderful things about you, and shows that you are far smarter than he has been giving you credit for. The fact that you actually posted a question here, shows that you already know the answer, and just want some assurance that it's the right thing to do.
Well, between the people who have cared enough to answer already, and myself, you've got the support: It's time to break it off (no ultimatums "Leave her now or else it's over", no chance for 'making it better'), and move on with your life. Enjoy your youth, and find someone that has been looking for a wonderful woman to share his life with and build your own life with.
After all, even if he DOES leave his wife, remember that they will always cast a shadow across your life. He will have to pay child support, unless he's a total jerk, he'll be visiting with the kids when he can... And in the end YOU will have contributed to the kids having to deal with their father leaving their home, and will always be a kind of villain. If nothing else, they'll almost undoubtedly hear that from their mom. So go and find someone that is ready to be dedicated to your shared life... Or just party for a while, then start looking, but take the experience you're having now as something to keep you wiser in the future, and move on a smarter woman.
You'll be fine, and hopefully will find a man that appreciates a woman that can recognize her mistakes and correct them.
Best of luck.
Leave this man and these types of relationships alone. I am not proud of it, but I too have dated married men and the only thing I got was heartache and a roll in the sack. It is not worth your time or energy and believe me the KARMA from it is nothing to be played with. You will not feel good about yourself until you have the courage to stay away from these type of self destructive relationships. Why are you in this relationship anyway, you deserve much better than to be somebody's side kick. Even if he did leave her for you, you better believe that he will do the same thing to you. It seems exciting but you will always get the short end of the stick and be looked at as being the one who is wrong. So hold your head up and walk away now. The longer you wait the harder it will be, trust me I am speaking from experience. Be Blessed not stressed!
i agree, i also think that its not fair for the other woman (his wife) that is wrong what your doing you are being a HOMEWRECKER sorry, but its the truth at the end of the day his heart isn't with you but with his wife the woman who had his kids so find yourself a single man
comment made by Val91 7 months ago
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