We were arguing over this with my cycle of friends and there seems to be no clear cut solution. Do you think that after a break up you should claim back your gifts.. Take note: Not a divorce. Just simply boyfriend- girlfriend thingie..! Blurt it out!
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I think that if any gifts like photos, or family heirlooms, or such that has personal value, have been given, they should be returned. Other things like trinkets or toys and the like should be kept. Make it as simple and as generous as it can be.
answered 6 months ago
It's a tough call really. Depending on who initiated the break-up I can see why one of the duo might want want to keep some of the gifts for sentimental reasons, but it woud re-open old and painful wounds of the break-up and such. Maybe it is this person's way of facing, dealing with and moving forward with his or her life, maybe he or she wants to take pleasure in destroying the items his or herself or maybe they just want to throw the things in an old shoe box for memory's sake and go thru them years from now. One needs to consider all the reasons for this desire and the repercussions of claiming said gifts to one's own life and heart.
It's a tough call as I said.
Good Luck.
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answered 6 months ago
Well you need to think if you got the stuff back will it remind you of him? Will you feel better if you get it back? Or you just rather forget it and let him keep it cuz you don't need any memories of him.
answered 6 months ago
Well it depends what it is, if it's personal things like home tel numbers and family photos then you have the right to get them all back. Maybe girts like valitines presents or christmas gifts he has the right to own. Those things belong to him and are in memory of you.
answered 5 months ago
Some people do I think it depends on the how long you have been in this relationship and the price of the items.
answered 6 months ago
Every situation is different, but when it comes down to it, a gift is a gift. But, If my boyfriend gave me a ring that belonged to his grandmother or something, and we broke up, I would volunteer to give it back. If he bought me a ring (that didn't put him into debt for 5 yrs) and we broke up a while later, I would most likely keep it unless he really wanted it or I didn't want it. In general, if a person bought something of significant value for their bf/gf and then the bf/gf broke up with them, it should be returned. If the gift giver is the one who was in the wrong though, it's tough to say. So, I guess I wasn't much help because there is no clear cut answer. Each situation will be different, and it all depends.
answered 6 months ago
I think you should and shouldn't. Should - because you are hurt of over what the person did or whatever and can't bear the thought of your stuff in their possession. Shouldn't - those gifts may come in useful one day
answered 6 months ago
I think if you gave a person something it is their's now now and if you ask for it back it should be there choice whether to give it back or not. If it was something of great value like diamonds or gold then there shouldn't be any doubt about it.
answered 6 months ago
You should never claim back your gift, whatever might be the reason for break up
answered 6 months ago
No. Keep the gifts. Someday, those gifts would bring back the memories the both of you shared. And it is worth remembering (although you think now it is not. But you'll get over the bitterness).
answered 6 months ago
Never ever do that.. It's not good. You already gave it and it would really be childish for you if you'll take everything back after you broke up...
answered 5 months ago
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