How Come I Can't Have An Orgasm?

Because some one is not doing something right if you cant have an orgasm..................maybe you should try an alternative method.

As a guy, I do not know what this is like (I would like to understand) and I cannot say I know how to solve it, but I do think there are few things a woman needs to know:  First, I don't think it is productive to say "the guy is not doing it right" because this takes you out of the equation.  Like any beautiful dance, both people must do their part and dance together.  Of course the guy may be able to do better, but it is not helpful to think that it is all on the guy.   While it is very important for the guy to do better, it is equally important to avoid an attitude of blame, but instead share a common experience like dancing together.  You are not an observer only.  And I am not just talking about motion, but also how you relax, let go, focus, learn to train your mind and your body to zero in on the pleasure and not be distracted, etc., etc.   It can be like the mental focus of martial arts.  Second, keeping such things a secret from a guy is usually a bad idea.  Women often are afraid to say things, but they do not consider the harm they are doing by NOT saying things.  Often the harm of NOT tellling the truth is much worse.  A guy may keep doing what isn't working, if he understandably thinks it is working.  What would you expect?  If you don't tell a guy that something is not working, isn't he going to keep doing the wrong thing?   Also, while you may be  intimidated about talking with him about such things  THAT MAY BE YOUR PROBLEM RIGHT THERE.    It must be very hard to completely let go and feel the pleasure fully and be able to be yourself if you have not yet achieved a comfort level with your guy so that you can indeed talk about such things.  If you are afraid to tell him the truth about your feelings, how can you possibly feel comfortable enough to orgasm -- which is a very vulnerable emotional state with another human being.  You are MISSING a very important ingredient - a relationship of mutual trust and emotional nakedness to one another.  Ladies:  99% of what counts is the WAY you say things, not WHAT you say.   Your concerns about saying something to a guy should focus on HOW you bring it up, how you are reassuring, sensitive, supportive, attentive to his reactions, etc. The secret is NOT in WHAT you say... But HOW you say it.  There isn't anything you can't talk to a guy about.... As long as you don't make him feel he is being attacked.

You should talk to a doctor, because if you can't it is something wrong

It was once explained to me that on average only 20% of women have orgasms. For many reasons, one of which is that your pelvic bones don't line up causing you not to be stimulated in the right place at the right time. I have one suggestion that worked for me, and that is to take top. It gives you control of penetration and situation. Tell him to match your rythem, not be like a jak rabit, and find the spot that stimulates you inside and out. I personally can only orgasm on top, I never tell the guy that, but I think for me it is a control factor. I once found a little book on a check out stand that explained how to move your pelvis so that it stimulates you and your partner, but have missed placed now. But I remember that it explained what I just told you, and every time I take top now I orgasm, maybe it will work for you!

For me it is very hard for me to have an orgasm. To tell you the truth i only have orgasms through oral sex. He haves to preform oral sex on me in order for me to have an orgasm and then we can proceed in making him happy. I never think i had an orgasm just by having sex only. I mean it feels good in all but it never made me tingle all over.so in way i can understand where you are coming from and to let you know that you are not the only one.

I have a cousin-in-law that will not orgasm just by having sex alone she has to have her man play with her clit that is the only way she will orgasm she has no g-spot

If you are not been able to ejaculate then it is a problem. You must consult doctor for it. The doctor will prescribe some medicine for you.
For some guide, how you can have orgasm, visit the following link.
www.netdoctor.co.uk