How Do You Deal With This?

Hey, Just sit down and explain to him calmly that your not please with this and tell him to tell her know she can't be on your insurance policy. And try to get counseling from a pastor that will tell you what to do about your problems.I know you took your marriage vows seriously and I know we can't control these men.but I pray that you want end your marriage over this but just be honest with your husband.be bless japeace

I think that is ridiculous. I say that ex relationships should be non existent by the time two people have married. That should have been weaned off even before the engagement! You should just bluntly tell him that that is unacceptable for another person to be on the two of your insurance policy. You also need to tell him that you feel it is inappropriate how close of a relationship he has with his ex. It's not healthy for your relationship. Counseling could be a good idea too. Don't give up so easy but be firm and thorough in expressing your thoughts to him.

It sounds like there are unfinished issues. You need to confront him and ask him how he would feel if you were the one being frequently contacted by your ex. If he says he wouldn't be bothered then i think he is either being dishonest or he feels nothing for you. It's ok to break up with someone amicably and remain friends, but not when it is causing you stress and not when they are involved in your affairs. For him to even consider this without consulting with you would be a snub. Have it out with him and let him know how you feel. If he loves you he will understand.

Do you realize how suspicious this sounds, I am not saying that this is the real case, but I watch them murder shows a little too often I guess. I would tell him that you have a genuine concern about her being on the insurance no matter what their reasons are for it. They are divorced, and she should be taking care of herself, they should be done with one another by now. Hope this helps.

I have talked to him about it but he says i am being dispassionate and unempathetic about the whole issue,apparently the ex is living with another man and expecting.
These people divorced because the ex was cheating on him and believe it or not i am his 3rd wife and i am beginning to see why.

we'll see how it goes but if it comes to the worst i am out of here.
And did i mention we have only been married a month?

Terere