How Do I Get Over My Husband?

You need to find a way to focus your energy elsewhere. And it doesn't sound like you are doing a great job of it on your own so maybe you should try counseling or therapy. For some reason, some people are just harder to get over than others. And you love some quality that you see in your husband. But at least you are smart enough to realize that he is mean and abusive and aren't with him now. Stay smart and stay away from him. He will only bring you down. There are better men out there. But see about some counseling or therapy. If nothing else, it will give you some positive affirmation and you will feel better about yourself. Good Luck!

You won't until the "love " that you feel for him is replaced by the memory of his abusiveness towards you. " Oh, he's not such a bad guy" after the swelling under your eye goes away. Part of the "problem" with him is you. For a woman do be drawn to a man who is abusive usually means that the woman has a self esteem problem. Or is afraid to let go because someone is better than no one. And IT'S NOT YOUR FAULT!!!!! And if you take this dude back , the abusiveness comes back right along with him. So suck it up, get tough, be PROUD of yourself that this guy is no longer around. And if have to , go to a meeting attended by abused women- you'll find some solace, some conversation, and the realization that you did the right thing. And don't go back on it....

Recovery can be painful and difficult. I can relate to your story but I am sure you know your better off without him. I was in a 3 year relationship which should have ended at least a year earlier. I felt someone died in my life when I was going through recovery. A book I found online at Barnes and Noble is called, Life's Little How To Book. The book gives excellent tips on recovery, being single, dating among other life tips. I still review the recovery advice it gives just to keep me happy and focused on other things in life. It's been 4 months and I have been doing wonderful without my ex. You can recover from your ex you just need to accept the relationship was not healthy and decide to emotional detach yourselve from him. I hope this helps. Good luck!