Should I Get Married?

Well, it is really a matter of your heart. If you think you both love each other from the core of your hearts then you should be married. No one is perfect in this world.

One must control over his emotions. If he had done something violently in past then you should both sit and talk about it so that nothing like it could happen in the future. In my opinion you should be married because he didn't have done anything which was so violent. It was just emotions on which he didn't have had control.
Make things clear by talking with each other. Plan your life and do not deviate from the ideal behaviour.

Ok, I think I'll be the person with the negative side. If this is the kind of reaction that he is showing you then think about it. I think the reason why he hasn't hit you yet because you are not his wife (yet). But believe me I'll give it maybe 3 weeks before he will hit you and this time it will hurt real bad. Trust me I know it. I'm saying this not to brake the two of you up, I'm just saying it because I've seen guys like this before. And the lady that became his wife was really hurt. The guy said I'll stop but then the hitting started again when they got married. I've seen it happen with 7 guys who got married. So if I were you (nsucracker) be careful and yes talking to him might help to why he gets so pisst-off. Try to comfort him when he gets all burn up.

If he has been with you for four years and he hasnt actually hit you or directly verbally threatened you then i imagine it would be safe to go ahead. But if you speak to his family and friends you can get a picture of his general behaviour. Does he get into fights etc. Life is about taking chances, but it doesnt do any harm to even out the odds a bit. If he is a professional then he cant be stupid. Talk through your fears with him and tell him that you feel a bit uncomfortable with how he reacts. He may just do it habitually and not even give it a second thought. Iron these out before you take the plunge. Good luck.

Well…the answer to this complex question lies only and only in your mind and heart. If you feel that you can afford to be single at this stage of your life, then you should definitely get married. Getting married is actually fun! You get to be with someone who is ever present to serve your needs, support you in times of need and love you like anything. Besides this, it would not kill you to share your life with someone! Right?

I was in an emotionally abusive relationship, and it started becoming physically abusive shortly before I backed out of the 5 years we had shared. It was really difficult for me to do, but I am glad that I did it. If you still really love him, try talking to him about it first. Tell him that you are a little worried about it. Be honest. If he is willing to keep you and to work this out, I'd say go ahead. If things persist, you could try a marriage/couples counselor who can help him cease his abuse and help you two figure out the correct way to argue that won't lead to such high strung emotions. Good luck hun! I hope things work out for you.