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Someone From Another Race Asked Me Out And I'd Like To Go, Should I?

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    Honestly, to me...Dating someone from another race isn't a big deal at all. However, you have to think about how your family and friends may feel about the situation. They may be against it. I mean, if he's a great guy and really likes you, i say go for it. But you would want your family to accept him as well as you do. Although nobody can tell you who to go out with, that's your decision and your decision only.

    But a relationship can go a lot smoother knowing your family/friends accept him the way that you do. I suggest that you see how your family feels about it and if they have no objections then hey, Go for it!....However if they do and  for some reason you still want to go out with this guy, it can definitely complicate things and make the relationship harder. You don't want him to get hurt just because of his race. Hopefully your family will support u on this issue. Hope it all works out.
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    Smiley 

    answered 3 years ago

      I'm Aleut Indian, my husband white. We've been together for nearly 26 years. There have been times when people of our different races have said some of the meanest things. But all I have to do is look at him. I know that I am where I need to be. I have done the best that I can to teach our children that you can't have prejudices, and I think that they are better for it. They have friends of all races. If you live in America, you shouldn't have to be afraid of inter-racial relationships.
          But sadly, the prejudice is everywhere. It's not just family or friends agreeing with it, they don't have to. If you're fine with it, then you can find other people that are OK with it also. But in most circumstances, your family plays the strongest role in your decisions.
          Consult with your family, get a sense of their opinion, and go with your heart. Friends come after your decisions for what is best for you. A friend doesn't judge you either. Good luck.
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      Tiggersmom 

      answered 3 years ago

        I think if YOU would like to go out with this person, just go.  I don't see why
        the race would be an issue if you like this person.

        Race is not an issue for me so it's an easy decision, but it's your decision.
        You have to make your decision but just think how intriging and interesting it would be to learn about that person and his culture.  I would think it would be a lot of fun and I would really enjoy it.
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        Carole 

        answered 3 years ago

        Why not just go?
        Because someone is from a different race doesn't necessarily mean a relationship can't work. One of the happiest marriages I know of is between a Christian Scot and a Muslim - they've been married for over 50 years and are very happy. Compromise , respect and understanding should be a part of any relationship and if you extend this to one where there are racial and cultural differences it can work very well.
        Just see how it goes and if your happy then that's what matters.
        It's what the person is in character and individuality that matters.
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        Researcher 

        answered 3 years ago

        My fiancée is white I am Cuban, a race is not a big deal. The big deal and question you need to ask yourself is does he treat me right? Does he respect me? If he likes you a lot respects you and your family why not go for it?
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        Dovewoman 

        answered 3 years ago

          Yes,you should.  I recently dated a guy whose parents are from India and we had a lot of similarities and got along really well.
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          Nslp 

          answered 3 years ago

          Deciding to date someone from another race is a big decision. While you may not have any prejudices, your friends and family may. This can put the relationship under a lot of pressure. Before you decide to strike up a relationship with someone from another race, talk to them about the implications. Find out how their family feels. Let them know what they can expect from yours. If you both come from families where there is prejudice, discuss how it will be handled.  Find out how far the other person is willing to go to be in the relationship and weather or not they think they can handle the pressures of dating outside of their race. If those issues can be resolved between the two of you, feel free to accept. While dating outside of your race isn't always easy, because of the ignorance of other people, it's a decision that only you can make for yourself.
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          Guest 

          answered 3 years ago

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