I'm A Mother That Has Been Raising My Son All Alone. When Our Son Sees His Dad He Gets Real Excited. His Dad Just Does Not Want To Spend Time With Our Son. Should I Just Give Up On Trying?

My Daughters ex has tried to alienate their son from her. So, the word of advice is: Do not fall into the "Parental Alienation" trap. The main one who suffers is the child. Let your son know that it is OK with you for him to love his Dad, even if there is no relationship right now.  The only one left out in the cold will eventually, be his father. Raise him to respect his father because one day his father will have to face the questions your son will have for him. The more respectful the questions are asked the guiltier his father is going to feel when he realizes you did not bash him, as a father and allowed your son the opportunity to form his own opinion of him as a father.

Take it from one who has experienced the bittersweet joy of watching a child form her own opinion of her Father and making the decision to see him through his fight with melanoma. If any kid had the right to tell her dad to "get lost"... she did. The fact that she was raised to love her dad the way God loves her, unconditionally, made all the difference in the world when he passed away just months before her 20th birthday and his 40th.
Teach him now, to fill the void in his heart with God's Love. Both of you...let the Lord fill that void in your hearts. I will be praying for you

Look if your ex husband doesn't want to spend some time on your son then stop asking him to because he might have another family and he wants to forget about his past life...

What you need to do is try to bond with your son like his dad. You see there must be a quality in your ex that your son likes or they may have the same interests. So try doing what your ex does to your son when he bonds with him...

If you have a boyfriend try to let him bond with your son because at this point it looks like your son wants a father figure so give him one... if you don't want to break his heart and tell him that his dad doesn't want to have time with him

If you have guy friends you could ask them to bond with your son...

Don't interfere with the relationship your son seems to want. Unfortunately, if it continues the way it's going, your son will need to be the one who changes his relationship with him. I have seen more families alienate children from the parent not in the home. What happens many times is that they learn from the one parent to dislike the other or go to the opposite extreme by imagining it's better over there and leaving where they currently are. It's sad to be unwanted, and I know you feel the tug on your heart.

Your son really needs to understand his dad's reactions in time and if you give him the freedom to find out he will and he'll be yours, not his dad's. Remember to raise your son in a positive, loving and responsible way so he can understand how people can be and are. Be sure to help your son to have faith in himself, the Lord, and trust in you. You won't go wrong.

Good luck and God bless