Is It Possible To Love Your Spouse, But Want To Be With Another Person?
I feel as if my husband and I are more like room mates now than a married couple, I have fallen "in love" with someone else and I want to be with that person, but I still love my husband but I am not "in love" with him anymore. I feel no spark anymore between us and this other man there is a spark. This other man I speak about is a friend and is involved with someone and is not happy as well. Could it be two people looking for just campionship with making love or possibly true love?
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I think it is possible to love someone but still want to be with another person, yes. You hit the nail on the head when you used the terms "love" and "in love" (although this can sometimes be confused with "lust").
When you have been married to someone for a period of time and that person has been such a big part of your life, you will inevitably have feelings of love for that person, regardless of feelings of attraction. You may not want to leave that person because of the history you have and it also may go against what you think is morally right.
Never the less, you can't help how you feel on a more basic level, and if there is someone you are attracted to that is not your partner, then thats just that. It could be just lust, yes, but it could also be the start of something greater as well. The only person that can truely answer that question is you. You need to look inside yourself and make choices based on what you feel is right.
The only thing I can say is, be honest with people. Even though you think it may hurt them, it is always best to be honest and get things sorted immediately. Things that aren't and that are left to brew, can sometimes boil over and then you're left with an even bigger mess.
I hope everything works out for you.
When you have been married to someone for a period of time and that person has been such a big part of your life, you will inevitably have feelings of love for that person, regardless of feelings of attraction. You may not want to leave that person because of the history you have and it also may go against what you think is morally right.
Never the less, you can't help how you feel on a more basic level, and if there is someone you are attracted to that is not your partner, then thats just that. It could be just lust, yes, but it could also be the start of something greater as well. The only person that can truely answer that question is you. You need to look inside yourself and make choices based on what you feel is right.
The only thing I can say is, be honest with people. Even though you think it may hurt them, it is always best to be honest and get things sorted immediately. Things that aren't and that are left to brew, can sometimes boil over and then you're left with an even bigger mess.
I hope everything works out for you.
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Thank you very much, I understand what you are saying, I guess I have come at a crossroads in my life and you are correct the longer I wait the more of a mess it will become. I will keep you all posted.
No, you can't have both. You are playing with marriage and marriage is forever with One person. You have to remember why you married him... If not then set your priority straight...
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