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How Long Should I Wait Before Ending My Marriage?

I have been married for 23yrs. Separated for 18months and going to marriage counseling for 10 months. We have 3 children. I love my husband very much. He says his feelings aren't what they should be for me and is trying to make it work but tells me he may never come home. How long should I wait for his feelings to maybe come back for me or should we call it quits?

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    Marriage is initially a long-term commitment or rather a promise to be together for the rest of your life. Ask yourself this "Have I kept my ego aside for a moment and considered working it out?". If yes, then just give it one more shot and still if you feel there is no chance you can bear with each other then end it. One very important consideration would be your children. Since you have 3 I sincerely request you stay together for their sake till they are independent enough to lead their lives. The "wait" can be as long as you think its worth holding on. Its not just about two people living together, it affects a lot of people around you. So when considering to end it, please consider the ones who will be affected. Don't be impulsive, rationalize the situation and see what you can do to improve it. Its always a two way thing, may be a different degree from either side. But there surely is a point where both of you can reach a compromise if you just open your mind and set aside your ego.

    You have three children just consider asking him that if his feelings have disappeared, what is the children's mistake in that case? Feelings will get back they're just hidden somewhere down there, give it a chance, go to the place you both love for a vacation and spend some time alone.
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    Tina12 

    answered 3 years ago

      I am in the same boat.. But the other way.. I don't' love my husband the way I should... Years of trubble's and such with him... I have finally decided to call it quits.. I have not told him yet.. But will when the time is right.. We are still in the same house.. With three children.. One a young adult. I don't want to hurt him.. But know it will be so when the time comes.... So with all this said.. To your answer...  You need to at this point in your life .. To get on with your life.. Your young and strong.. And deserve a love ... In your life if not now.. One worthy for you... Not a half love  .. That he can't give you.  Do your thinking.. Sorting and talk to family and loved ones to sort through things. I know you still love him.. I still love my husband. But no longer have the will to continue living together as a couple. Your kids are stronger than you think and will do well whatever your choice
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      Rayshell 

      answered 2 years ago

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