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Annulment Possible?

I married my husband 2 years ago (April 2006), and at the time I thought he was just 'different' or unique. We recently found out he has Marfans Syndrome AND Aspergers Syndrome. I can not take the selfishness and him being consumed with his 'fascinations' anymore. I read that in Louisiana (where we live) that an annulment can be granted based upon a mental disability. Since Aspergers is a form of autism, is this grounds enough for an annulment or will I have to file for a divorce? How long does the annulment process take?

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    Well this is a loaded question. You married him and , by the way I read it, you BOTH were unaware of his condition,(correct?). Let me put it this way,,,,,how would you feel if your husband wanted you out of his life if you were diagnosed with breast cancer???
    I am going out on a limb here and telling you that I do not consider you to be a very nice person. What if the man can get treatment for this and it can be controlled. Sounds to me like you just want out and that is it.
    Your husband is ill and can be treated. Maybe a little compassion and education on your part would help the situation.
    Sorry for being so blunt but how would you react if it were your child??
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    Handyman08 

    answered 2 years ago

      I understand that you may believe I'm a bad person, but I only had 100 words to express as much as I could initially.  He actually had 'self-diagnosed' himself prior to us getting together.  Yet, he never once told me about his suspicions. We have tried counseling, Ive read up on the illnesses he has for the past 8 months, and done all the things I'm supposed to do.  But things are not any better.  I have 3 children from a previous marriage, and now I feel as tho I have a 4th child living in the home. My husband has to be reminded daily to bathe, brush his hair, his teeth and do typical things that a grown man should know to do.  He is 26 years old, yet his brain functions at a much younger age.  He is immensely intelligent, but lacks what most would call common sense.  I feel as tho I am spending more of my time 'mothering' him than my own children, and that is not fair to the kids.  Had I known he had these issues prior to getting married, I would not have married him.  He did not seem selfish before we were married, it was only after we had started living together that things became devastatingly obvious that something was amiss.  For many months I put it off to him being newly married and did not understand the proper etiquette.  When we got the diagnosis for AS, I felt relieved, because now we knew for sure what was happening.  He knew it would take extensive counseling and a lot of change on both our parts to make our marriage work.  He has yet to take one step forward in this process.  It has been 8 months, and we are no further along than we were previous to the counseling or diagnosis.  If you still wish to believe me a bad person, then you have the right to your opinion.  But in my heart I believe my children should be who I am concentrating on, and not making sure my husband remembers to bathe.
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      Lovi 

      answered 2 years ago

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