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I Am Having Troubles Signing A Sympathy Card, Can You Help Please?

My husbands side of the family have been friends with this family forever. Being married to him for the last 22 years, I know the family as well but mainly just at social gatherings. Their son who was just a few years older than us just passed away. Horrible thing is, he died from a heat stroke. What does one say to the parents or his spouse as the old cliches like "I know how you feel" b/c we don't and saying I'm sorry seems to impersonal since this is a family friend. HELP.

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    It really is a difficult thing to do without sounding trite.  Sometimes I ask the other party to accept my heartfelt or sincerest condolences during such a difficult time.  Even though you can't know how they feel, you do understand their grief.  You hope they have only good memories of their son and keep them in their hearts always.  

    I hope I was of some help to you.
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    Robbier44 

    answered 1 year ago

    Like I told P, no matter what, this is not going to be easy. Thanks for your help
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    Knutrbuttr

    Knutrbuttr

    commented 1 year ago

      I agree w/ all of the above answers.  however, if it were me, it would probably be written as so:  i can completely sympathize with your situation, in this, your time of need, please know that should you need anything, you know i am simply a phone call away.  and please know that _________ is in a better place than any of us could ever imagine & he will be child's name guardian angel & with all of us in our ♥s & memories.  good luck to you twin♥  and i am sorry for your loss as well sweeetpea.♥
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      Nascarnut 

      answered 1 year ago

      Thanks, I have that visitation to go to tomorrow night and the funeral is Wednesday mid-morning. Sad, he was 46, married, and had two kids. A heat stroke is what he died of. Still blows my mind away.
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      Knutrbuttr

      Knutrbuttr

      commented 1 year ago

      I think its really the best one yet.
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      Druid

      Druid

      commented 1 year ago

      WELL, I SINCERELY THANK YOU FOR YOUR KINDNESS, DRUID.♥
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      Nascarnut

      Nascarnut

      commented 1 year ago

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        I feel what you are saying here. I think; most everyone struggles with this at one time or another. We can not feel qualified to comment on the tremendous pain and suffering that our loved one is enduring, yet we wish to comfort!. Telling  someone that you are there for them, is all a friend needs to hear. Sometimes no words are needed at all, just your presence ...tells the story!
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        Pencil 

        answered 1 year ago

        No matter what, it's not going to be easy :( Thanks *P
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        Knutrbuttr

        Knutrbuttr

        commented 1 year ago

        Yeah but her question is about writing a sympathy card !
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        Druid

        Druid

        commented 1 year ago

        I know how difficult it is to come up with the right words.  My nephew's 37 year old friend of many years died of a massive heart attack while changing their baby son.  I knew him well, because he would stop by to visit me with my nephew.  What could I say?

        I chose to write in a card, "thinking of you at this most difficult time".  I just seemed to be at such a loss.  I hope the words were comforting to his wife and family, and it didn't convey the feeling that I knew what they were going through.

        This was how I handled it, I'm sure the right, comforting words will come to you.   
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        Mymollie 

        answered 1 year ago

        Thank you for your kind words, his survivors are his parents, wife, and a 5 yr. old daughter. No matter what, it's not going to be easy :(
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        Knutrbuttr

        Knutrbuttr

        commented 1 year ago

        That's a good one
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        Druid

        Druid

        commented 1 year ago

        Expressing your heart, and wanting to be there for them might be just what they need. Make your presence known to them, and stick around a while to help because they aren't going to want to do things for themselves, as the sense of loss may be overwhelming for some, and it can bring on depression.
        To put the words on a card, isn't easy, because of how sensitive the situation is. Something like, I am truly sorry for your loss, and the world lost a bright star in losing him. But rest easily as we can take comfort in knowing that he is now on a journey to walk with Jesus.
        Hope this helps you out dear, I am sorry that you lost him. If you need to talk, you know where I am dear friend. ♥
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        Tiggersmom 

        answered 1 year ago

        You truly amazing Tiggs and I hope you know that!
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        Knutrbuttr

        Knutrbuttr

        commented 1 year ago

        I agree. Except if the person isn't religious. But you deserve 5 for that one
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        Druid

        Druid

        commented 1 year ago

          Yes, You can get pregnant. You need to be checked .
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          Joyann 

          answered 1 year ago

          SORRY wrong ?
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          Joyann

          Joyann

          commented 1 year ago

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