How Do I Change This Love Triangle To A Straight Line?
I'm in a long distance relatioship and he hasn't called for 44 days already! I have fallen for this guy at University, I really like him and the feeling is mutual but I don't know what I should do considering tha I am still 'with' the long distance guy. SOS..!
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How long have you been in the long distance relationship? It sounds to me like after 44 days of not hearing from him at all you should reevaluate weather you two are really in a relationship. I don't know all the details but in my opinion if you are excited about the new boy at your university I think you should go with that- explore that relationship and have fun.
As far as your long distance relationship goes, It sounds like he has possibly moved on and just didn't bother to tell you as sometimes boys can be jerks that way. If you feel the need to officially break it off with him before you move forward with the new guy, then give him a call and do that. Although, it sounds like he moved on without giving you the same consideration.
answered 3 months ago
I'm going to have to agree with Courtneyk on this one. 44 days is a very long time to NOT hear from a man you are 'involved' with- studying or not. I mean come on, we're all busy, we all have lives but if you've found time to remain in contact with him and he has not...? I hate to say it but I believe Mr. Long Distance has moved ahead with his life and left you behind.
Good Luck-
Auntimaime
answered 3 months ago
There was this song in the 70's...
If you cant be with the one you love.. Love the one your with.
I'm not certain that absence makes the heart grow fonder.. Nor am I convinced that absence makes love fall apart.
But if you fall for someone else..then you may need time to explore those feelings so you don't make a big mistake later.
answered 3 months ago
Let it go! For him to have had no contact for 44 days is unforgivable. If he feels the relationship has ended and doesn't want to invest in a phone call to inform you, just moving away to a new state, new surroundings etc should at the very least warrant a call, just to say 'how's it going?'
answered 3 months ago
The truth is that long distance relationships at this age, are difficult to maintain. The fact that you haven't heard from yours, may mean that he too is investigating the scenery, and hasn't the nerve to end it. I would definitely discuss this with Mr. Long distance, clear that up and move on. The beauty of being young is that there is no hurry to make that final decision. You have other things to worry about! Hope this goes well for you, but I think you are right to rethink and keep an open mind.
answered 3 months ago
Let it go. Thats a long time. If you aren't there to keep an eye on him, he could be doing a lot behind your back. To be honest he has probably moved on.
answered 3 months ago
I would be looking around for other opportunities. If you have not been on his mind in all that time, I would consider him an unsuitable suitor. That does not mean that you can not go out with him, if and or when he calls, but i would make it clear that i have a full life, and not the time to wait around on him. Stay busy with friends and you will find someone suitable. Time between steadies are good times to get involved in some personal interests and hobbies, and is an excellent time to stock up on friend friends. We can never have enough good friends. Spend some time having fun with people who enjoy being with you, and someone is bound to notice you! Then you can include him in your life and you will be doubly blessed.
answered 3 months ago
Ok, your long distance person might be busy or something. Don't get all antsy pantsy when he calls. Listen to the signs and the way how the relationship is going. Depends on how long your relationship is with the long distance guy, you need to determine the fact. The university guy is just probably someone you're interest in as in because he's studying and into what he's doing that turns you on. If you're really into this university guy, wrap things up with the long distance guy. Don't get yourself stuck in the middle getting hurt.
answered 3 months ago
I would be looking around for other opportunities. If you have not been on his mind in all that time, I would consider him an unsuitable suitor. That does not mean that you can not go out with him, if and or when he calls, but i would make it clear that i have a full life, and not the time to wait around on him. Stay busy with friends and you will find someone suitable. Time between steadies are good times to get involved in some personal interests and hobbies, and is an excellent time to stock up on friend friends. We can never have enough good friends. Spend some time having fun with people who enjoy being with you, and someone is bound to notice you! Then you can include him in your life and you will be doubly blessed.
answered 3 months ago
Well if he hasn't had the courtesy of at least for that long I would take this a hint and say it was his loss.yodeserve better then this so go fishing.
answered 3 months ago
Let it go! For him to have had no contact for 44 days is unforgivable. If he feels the relationship has ended and doesn't want to invest in a phone call to inform you, just moving away to a new state, new surroundings etc should at the very least warrant a call, just to say 'how's it going?'
answered 3 months ago
Let it go. Thats a long time. If you aren't there to keep an eye on him, he could be doing a lot behind your back. To be honest he has probably moved on.
answered 3 months ago
Well if he hasn't had the courtesy of at least for that long I would take this a hint and say it was his loss.yodeserve better then this so go fishing.
answered 3 months ago
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I agree with Courtneyk. You could, if it made you feel better, just write/e-mail your long-dist guy and tell him you have guessed he's not so keen to to keep in contact lately, and that you would like to date someone at your university - if he wants to stay friends he is welcome to stay in touch. You probably won't hear another word from him! Alternatively, you could save yourself the trouble and expense of postage and just assume that he isn't going to contact you, and carry on living your life. You can pretty well guarantee that Long-Distance Guy has started seeing someone and hasn't had the nerve to tell you, so just stopped contacting you. Guys tend to opt for whatever causes themselves least pain!
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