If Someone Has A Fear Of Cars , Would It Be Considered Poor Taste Not To Go To A Funeral?

How far away is it? Can you not walk there? Or cycle? And how close were you to the deceased? All of these are factors but I would figure it out.

If you weren't that close, send flowers or make a donation to their stipulated charity. If you were close, either make a plan or say your goodbyes in your own way. I don't think it's absolutely necessary that you actually be there but for you own personal health it's always best to say goodbye.

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You probably have P.T.S.D. Which can cause anxiety attacks. Valium works well with them. Only you can decide whether you are up to it. Why don't you ride with a supportive friend or S.O., to help you keep your mind off of it, and to gain one more victory against your condition.

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It's like the last person to answer that really makes me angry. No excuses were being made, no matter what you may have thought. Its people like you that do not understand phobias, why people like me keep myself locked in my house an d never come out for fear of being judged by from like you. And the worst part is I have known three people like me with worse phobias then I that have commented suicide because of people that are out there judging and just not caring. In a case like this i hope you are more caring when you answer the questions.

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Hi muncha,

I'm sorry to hear of your issue with cars. How do you get around to do your daily chores -- the market, the bank, the doctor, etc.?

I understand from my M.S. That some days are better than others; personally I find that an easy out sometimes when I don't feel quite like going out or doing something, but I decided that I just have to get up and do things otherwise I'm going to be miserable within myself -- beating myself up for NOT doing things and gaining weight! God knows I don't need any more weight gain; I can already thank my meds for that!! LOL

Has the doctor given you any other options? Besides the valium I mean. Have you tried a support group of some kind? I think that maybe that would help some; maybe if you had a sponsor (like A. A. Or G. A. Or even one of the diet programs). You know, someone you can call when the fear comes back in the door when you're not looking and is trying to overwhelm you?

I know, why don't we throw that fear right out that window behind you and never invite it back in? Let it go hang out with the vampires or something because we sure don't need or want it!!

Perhaps visiting a local senior center or nursing home might help with your rehabilitation. You would be giving of yourself and they of themselves; I always found that to be very helpful and cleansing.

My best to you. I know this is a long, complex road, but please remember that you are not alone. You are NEVER alone, and don't you ever forget that, OK?

Please be sure to shout at me if you need me.

Always in my prayers,

Jo

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It would be in poor taste to make an excuse involving your personal phobias, as that upstages the grief for the deceased. Take the valium your doctor prescribes and good luck.

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