How Can I Be With My Wife Again?
I grew up in a family that never said I love you or showed any emotion. She grew up with the love of her family. I was molested at age 5 and I knew that I loved her but I could not tell her or show her. I was not used to all the emotion and telling my feelings to someone. Now with help I can but she will not open up to me. We talk, but not talk if you can understand that. Can you help me?
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I am sorry to hear that. You should sit her down and look her in the eyes and say something like this;
I was wrong to let my past effect my future. I was wrong to hurt you in any kind of way. I am sorry, please forgive me. I want to work on this, but I need your help and your love. Please, show me how to love, because i love you so much deep down. Tell me how i can show you love and give me a chance.
This way you took responsibility for what you did wrong, apologized, and made a solution/promise that you would work toward the goal, and you asked for her help.
Good luck, i will be praying.
I was wrong to let my past effect my future. I was wrong to hurt you in any kind of way. I am sorry, please forgive me. I want to work on this, but I need your help and your love. Please, show me how to love, because i love you so much deep down. Tell me how i can show you love and give me a chance.
This way you took responsibility for what you did wrong, apologized, and made a solution/promise that you would work toward the goal, and you asked for her help.
Good luck, i will be praying.
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It has been almost two years. I am afraid to open up to her because I have hurt her by not loving her as she did me. I apologized to her and when I talk to her I want to tell her that I Love her but I do not want her to be uncomfortable with that. I do not do anything but work, class, home and nothing else. I punish myself because I have hurt the one that I love and who has loved me for me. I cry almost everyday and the pain gets so bad that I want to die. I really do love her so much.
The question is closed, so just a simple comment: Not everyone is good with words, or comfortable expressing their feelings. It may even sound phony if it is scripted. Action can speak just as loud. Give her a silent hug once in a while for no reason. Touch her shoulders as you pass by--not to demonstrate passion, but just to say that you care. Do things for her to ease her chores--put away the dishes, move heavy stuff, straighten out the closet, take out the garbage, etc., without being asked.
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