Is Staying Calm The Right Way, When Nothing Is Going Your Way?

Being composed often helps us avoid the drama that occurs in the presence of strong emotion.  Physiologically, our brains cannot engage logically while being "hooked" emotionally because these functions take place in different brain hemispheres.  Therefore, we must disengage from one function to engage the other fully.  So yes, there is practical wisdom and good biological reasons for calming the emotions when one needs to behave logically.  

On the other hand, sometimes strong emotion propels us forward to action, that --while it may not be logical--- achieves a useful result.  For example, when someone we love dies, we react emotionally, which is necessary to heal the part of us that has been injured (our hearts/spirits).  Or in another example, sometimes demonstration of strong emotion connects us to those we care about and demonstrates a deep level of care about what is occurring.  Knowing when to disengage from emotion temporarily and how to manage it appropriately so it doesn't harm us or others,  and also knowing when to alternatively use/rely upon logic is important; there are times when emotion creates energy that sustains us through hardship.

Our make  up says we need to respond,what happens to us when something goes wrong or someone upsets us we automatically go into the defense mode and our adrinaline flows and we are at a place to protect ourselves from mental or physical harm,this chemical is triggered by our emotions,to much of the chemical is not healthy for the system that is one reason why a person that steps up and says things and than hides is a coward because they can not face the person they are being negative or devious to,and you have to calm yourself,other things such as one that happen to a family member the state used one law two ways to entrap,and complaints fell on deaf ears,these issues you have to let go sooner or later,I feel you Sky,but hang in, this to shall pass......luck to you

I don't think that anyone could have said it better than Amore001. Keeping your cool is usually the right thing to do. I had a day yesterday, I couldn't hold anything, in the store I dropped a candle jar, and broke it, then I dropped a candle on my head, ouch, then I dropped a digital camera that I was buying.
Only to come home and sit and do nothing for a while, then going up to get groceries, I dropped boxes of rice that we were getting, and then at the checkstand, I dropped my purse.
All the while telling myself that I shouldn't be touching anything. I kept my cool most of the day, then when I dropped some toilet paper, I lost it. I couldn't take anymore. I did nothing for the rest of the night. Being patient helped me immensely.
I know that isn't the type of situation that you were thinking about, but, it is a good representation of keeping ones cool in a situation that could have been a lot worse. Hope this helps.

You can Yell! Yell Louder... You can Cry! Then Cry Harder... When you done now what else can you live and even enjoy even the smallest bit you may get in a day, you stay calm and know this too, shall pass.

In everyday circumstances an at that moment...YES. But it does build up inside and starts frustrating the heck outta you. When you have a time alone.. Scream away, punch the stuffing out of a pillow, eat a gallon of ice cream. When you feel a little better, discuss with yourself why things didn't go your way. If you find that there was nothing you could do about it. Then maybe it was meant to be. Sometimes obstacles are put in our way for a purpose. Sometimes the trip is easy, sometimes the trip has traffic jams. Just remember to not give the finger.

I tried that thing. But, a time came by when I loosed all my hopes and thought of killing myself with sleeping pills(which I tried but worst happened and I was saved).
But, then Staying calm is the only way, If we get hyper we will suffer even more!
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Staying calm keeps your blood pressure low, helps you concentrate, and unsettles your rivals.

Depends on the situation.... It is always a good idea not to let life/people/things get to you... I have found it does me no good mentally or physically to get wound up about things that only affect me for a short minute(not for very long)...now if the situation calls for getting wound up to get the attention of someone or stop something bad from happening then that would be okay while remaining calm on the inside.. Or if it is a life changing/saving situation that would also depend/ be on a case by case basis for you to decide at the time it is happening...since i don't know what your going through i would suggest giving it to God/prayer and then doing what you can because that is all you can do...i have found many things that are above my pay grade(out of our hands) when dealing with lifes lessons/situations...

you need to stay calm, things may not being going the way you wish, but everything will be fine, don't worry!!