What Can I Do As A Mother Of Two Children To Prevent The Father (my Ex) Of Our Children To Take Them To Visit A Relative Who Demonstrates A Lack Of Judgement In His/her Behavior And Words?

If you are worried about your children hearing bad things about you, relax. Their natural instincts will keep them sympathetic to you, especially if your relationship with them is healthy and loving. Most kids will not want to hear "bad things" about their mother. Tell them they have the right to express themselves in a respectful manner if they are uncomfortable hearing any discussion,, especially if the topic is you. "Please don't talk about my Mommy, Period."
You cannot protect your children forever. Much of this depends on how old they are: Older children can listen to reason, very young ones will not understand or retain too much. If the environment is truly dangerous, (abuse, neglect, etc), go to court and petition for an order preventing your ex from taking them to, or visiting with that individual. Most important, remain calm and don't get keyed up about these visits. Your children will smell panic a mile away. Try to remain above it all and exhude a calm and reassuring manner. If your children trust you, there is nothing to worry about.

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It's just like the answer to your question say, children will not want to hear of their mother being put down by someone else. Does your ex know of this inappropriate behavior, whether he does or don't you need to talk with him about it and let him know how it is affecting you and your children and he needs to deal with it first. If that doesn't work be an adult and confront the relative of your children. Then, if that approach doesn't work for you then take court action. You have to show your children the strength in you being able to speak your mind so that if this happens again not only will they be willing to inform of the negative behavior but they will feel comfortable enough to let that other person know how you as their mother would feel about the negative comments as well as how they may feel about it.

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